Post Partum Rage

[Big60shair]

My wife and I have a beautiful bright healthy baby boy who’s 10 weeks old that I love with all my heart but I can’t cope with my wife and her anger.

I take the baby when I return home at 8pm till 2am or even 3am so my wife can sleep then get up for work at 08:00am.

She has her parents helping through the day too.

Nearly every night she character assassinates me. I keep trying to be as patient as I possibly can to keep everyone happy but it’s becoming unbearable.

For example last night...

The words that come out of you’re mouth are cheap and mean nothing so when you say you love baby it means nothing.

You’re a terrible father

Baby I’m sorry your father is so useless!

Was slapped a few times

Mobile phone thrown at my head

Why are you so fucking stupid?*

Is there anything that you can do right?
*
You're just a fking joke

Just fk off and leave me alone * *

Why the f**k did you put the muslin on that way?

Why is your job so shit compared to my job? (I earn £50k driving articulated trucks)

I don’t like her swearing in front of the baby either.

I’m getting to the point I can’t cope anymore.

Anyone any ideas how to move forward?

Should I suck it up and get on with it or is this creating even more drama for the future?

I can’t stop thinking of divorce but baby is holding me.

Am I being unreasonable not wanting to accept this behaviour?

It all seems to have calmed down to the extent she keeps apologising for her behaviour. I think she was overwhelmed by trying to be a good mum.

Also I think if there is a problem the person with the problem is the last person to see it.

I feel guilty reporting her to the Dr but also I feel I didn't have any other choice because talking to her about it didn't make any difference at all.

so now she is feeling guilt - its still part of the issue

and you still havent gotten her any help

Don't feel guilty reporting her! I'm so sorry that you're going though this - you sound like you're trying to do the very best you can!

She does sound like she's got the bad psychotic version of PND (although that often results in not wanting the child and you have the opposite situation).

IMO I would see your GP on your own and get a swift referral for a mental health assessment. If they think it's severe enough she will be prescribed anti-psychotic drugs.

Also, you haven't mentioned yet if she is actually depressed - is this the case?

I'm really not sure if she's depressed because today she's absolutely fine but through the week her behaviour was all over the place.

We need to go back to see GP next week and take it from there.

It's not on OP. If she is apologising she knows her behaviour is not ok but she's not doing anything about it

@Treesthemovie OP???

Yes OP

What does OP stand for?

Original Poster - person who started the thread

Ah makes sense. 👍🏻