Quick back story....4 and half years ago, happy as Larry. My partner (who I had known for decades and we had been in a relationship for 5 years) were eagerly looking at houses, just booked a holiday together...looking forward to the future. He turned 50 and slightly changed, new sports car, different hairstyle, new gym etc etc. Anyway...out of the blue walked in one day, said he didn't want to be with me and left. As quickly as that he was gone. I managed to ask him as he left if he met someone else...he smirked and said "that would be too easy wouldn't it"...I shall never ever forget his smirk and words that day. 5 days later I discovered pictures and declarations of love on social media of a younger woman he had met at the new gym. I went into shock for over a year, I can't remember much of that year, then my dad died on top of that. I haven't seen him or heard his voice since that day he walked away. I didn't chase, I sat there in shock, unable to breathe for what felt like an eternity. I had to go to therapy as my self esteem went south. My world had wobbled off its axis. I felt unsafe, frightened of the future, unable to cope at times. Although I have recovered somewhat, I haven't recovered fully. I have not been able to find another full time relationship but found happiness in dating a handful of lovely gentlemen who take me out and have decided this is it for me and have peace with this. My ex had tried to contact me throughout the years but was always still with the person he left and I wanted nothing to do with him and was quite curt with him to stay away. Today I am stable and happy.....then half an hour ago I get a message from him....he has left the woman he left me for .......and wants to meet up to talk. SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!! I am absolutely gobsmacked that he has sent this and I actually laughed out loud reading it. What astounds me with men, and I am sure women do this who get left by the OM, is the cheek of it. On what planet does he think I am on that I am going to hop, skip and jump to him to have a coffee to sooth his broken heart. It really beggars belief sometimes. Yes, he damaged me immensely, but I have healed a lot, learned a lot and would never, ever give him even 30 seconds of my valuable time. What is it with men who can't be alone for 5 minutes and want to run as fast as possible to the most available woman to mop their brows. Sorry, big rant over. I am going back to my Gin and Tonic.