Has anyone divorced in their 20s?

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My marriage is crumbling and I think that's where we are heading, in truth we shouldn't have got married as it's become clear now that we are just totally different people. Sex life is barely there and I just don't feel like he respects me at all anymore. I feel like the only person in the world this is happening to, anyone else have a similar experience or hopeful stories?

Yep I did. I was 28 when it was all finalised. Had my 30's feeling entirely free and able to do what I wanted. It was the best thing i ever did

I'm 32 and in a similar position. The only thing I can say is that the problems were there in my 20s and I ignored them as I was worried about how it would look to be divorced at that age. Now I wish I hadn't as the problems never went away and we both would have had more time to meet someone else and start again before starting a family (we have no kids and I worry about meeting someone else in time to have them).

That makes me feel a bit better! Can I ask, did you ever think before you married that the relationship maybe wasn't right? And how have you dealt with the feelings of worry about telling other people?

Hazeljo I think that's why I feel we should face up to this now. There's time to start over and I can't see it getting better, I don't want to waste my best years now with someone who wants me to just be his wife but not have a personality or interests or life of my own, he wants everything about him to come before everything else

28 here and my divorce was agreed on in Court today. 6 weeks for my decree nisi to come through. Best decision I've ever made was when I walked out that door and didn't look back, I was in exactly the same place as you are. Felt like my husband didn't even like me, never mind love me! I'd completely lost myself in trying to fix something that was very, very broken. It seems bizarre that we feel so young and going through something like that, but you'll know you've made the right decision and you'll come out of it on the other side. I certainly did! Xxx

Got divorced aged 28 after 6 yrs of marriage. The whole thing completely ruined my twenties. Rip the plaster off and get out. These years are never coming back.

I did. I got married at 19 and at 21 discovered he had an affair and was planning to leave me. Yes, I had got married young but at no point did I think it wasn't going to be forever. I guess it may have been easier due to his infidelity to tell people. I felt more shame when my second marriage fell apart - we'd been together five years when we got married, then another 3 years before the divorce. This time was due to me being desperately unhappy and him making out it was all my fault. Everyone said what a shame it was and there were a few digs at me.

28 must be the number as that's how old I am too. I feel like he doesn't like me either, doesn't take much for him to put me down in front of his friends. How long were you all married? And was there a final straw thing or did you just finally feel you could face up to it not being right?

Me too. Married at 24, separated and went to live elsewhere at 28, formally divorced at 30.

Also, to answer your other question, I married with the feeling that the relationship wasn't 'right'. There were various reasons why I did what I did, not worth mentioning now. I admit, it was a stupid thing to do and I made a mistake. HOWEVER, if it helps, my thinking later on was like this: ok, I've made a mistake. But I'm not going to let this mistake to destroy my whole future life, am I? Very simple.

If you're unhappy and things are not right - leave. There's absolutely no point and no need to stay together 'just because'. Your marriage didn't work out and that's it, it happens. Doesn't matter, if you're in your 20s, 30s, or any other age.

As for other people... Some won't care, some will support you, some will judge. It doesn't matter, really. It's YOUR life, not theirs. They won't have to live with your husband in an unhappy relationship - YOU will. Don't let anybody guilt-trip you into staying and 'making things work', if you don't want to.

Married at 21. Divorced at 24. I think I always knew it was wrong and that it wouldn’t last but couldn’t admit it to myself.
Before I made the decision to finally leave I really worried about what people would think. I needed to accept how awful my marriage was and once I did, and let people in, they all supported me.
That was around 10 years and I am very happily married with a child now. I’m proud of being brave enough to walk away and start again.

I was married at 24 and divorced at 26, a year after i met a wonderful man and 5 years on now married expecting a baby, i now realise that my first marriage wasn't right and as hard as it was at the time (really hard, it literally broke me) I'm glad it ended

Married at 25, divorced at 29. Met Dh shortly after I separated from husband 1, pregnant within a year! 20 years later were still mega happy and have three great kids.

Got together when we were 17 & 18, had a baby when I was 19, all too much too soon. Together for nearly 7 years married for 2. Dreaded telling family but at the end of the day they loved me and wanted me to be happy. I should never have married him.. I knew I didn't but was taken along with it all 🤷🏼‍♀️

Married at 25, split just after I turned 26. Still not formally divorced and I'm 37. But that's mostly a cost thing and am unable to fill out forms alone thing

Yep married at 21, split at 27. Got married far too young, we grew apart and he was a bully. Now with someone else and very happy. It's better to be honest and say something isn't working than stay and be miserable.

My duster married at 25 and it lasted about 18 months. Both lovely people but too young, wanted different things at that stage in life.

Me. Married at 21, divorced at 23. I was way too young to get married. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

I felt like a failure for ages but it was a big life lesson for me and taught me to be more sensible in future.

Divorced at 27. I knew it was probably a mistake when we got married but didn't have the guts to call it off.
Had a good couple of years post divorce and then settled down with DH :)

Married at 23, divorced at 28. My family were saddened but they love me and respect my feelings. Been in a fab relationship now for 7 years but won't ever get married again.

The people that care about you won't be disappointed/angry or anything else. If they truly value you, they will be happy you're leaving a relationship in which you're not meant to be. Why pretend to them that all is okay when it isn't? They dont want you to be fake happy, they want you to be genuinely happy!
However, if your hesitation to divorce is because you're not sure if it's the right thing and you still feel it may work, maybe try couples counselling?

I got married at 20 and walked out 9 months later (due to abuse).
Don’t worry what anyone else thinks. Divorce is VERY common and people may be a bit shocked at first, but trust me they will get over it.

Life is far too short to stay in a miserable relationship.
If you know deep down that it’s never going to get better then just bite the bullet and break free.

My sister got married and divorced at 21! Do what is right for you and sod anyone else.

Married at 22, divorced at 24 here. Never remarried. Was a stupid young decision

Yup married at 21 and divorced shortly after as he turned out to be a psycho. I've long put it behind me. I'm 57 now.

Married at 23, separated at 24 and divorce done and dusted by 26.
Honestly it’s not a big deal at all, don’t waste your time unhappy. Once I’d done it I met loads of people who had been divorced young too.

Yes me. married at 25 separated at 26 divorced by 29 (only took that long because I couldn't afford it)

Just a stupid decision to get married and I personally was too young

Get out now OP you will never look back x