Social media ruined my relationship

[Sweet132]

Well...maybe not a fair statement.

It should be: I ruined my relationship for being so unboundaried on social media.

I was in a completely happy and stable relationship. I really was but then....joined social media and temptation was everywhere.

I have messed up so bad! All my own stupid fault!

Sparked up a friendship with someone. I actually knew this lad from an old workplace years ago.

As I was going to cross the line, I finished my boyfriend as didn't want to cheat. Had sex with said person. Which was amazing....mind blowing. Like....he was just ridiculously good in bed. There were 6 encounters altogether. When I knew him from an old workplace, there was defo a spark back then but we never did anything with it.

Then..... realised what the hell I had given up for an encounter and asked ex to take me back.

He did without hesitation....said i was lucky as I could have learned the hard way that the grass wasn't greener and doesn't see any issues. He is a great man...so handsome...tall....protective....just an amazing man. He has accepted me back without question.

Now I'm back in my stable and loving relationship......but....now I have had a taste of thrill of the chase and much better sex.....my relationship feels dull.....even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

My boyfriend is very good in bed but....being in a long term relationship....the sex feels different to the first time you do it with someone you've had a bit of chase with. Like.....new relationship sex. That sex feels a lot more intense to me.

It has been so long since I had that feeling and I miss it. The chase and encounter were just...unreal.

Is there a way I can just forget it all and just be happy with the most perfect man in the world that I have now?

I think I should just shut all the social media accounts down. Alternatively...go from man to man, finishing them when the new relationship sex feel wears off and moving to the next one and just.....growing old a lonely ole bag with no secure partner.

I have access to therapy from work and plan to pick this up with them.

Does anyone have any (kind) words of wisdom? I know I have messed up and I don't need reminding of it 😥

The only thing I feel I am lacking is that thrill......which will naturally wear off in a relationship of course. But....it is still fresh in my mind I guess.

Urgh. Thanks for listening x x

There's nothing wrong with liking feeling attractive and confident. Most people would say they enjoy receiving admiring glances or compliments. You just don't need to shag every man who admires you.

Thanks.

No way. I'm keeping this one. He's too good. Worth the sacrifice! He's a diamond.

You sound so, so incredibly self centred.

Every single thing you've posted is about your feelings and your wants and what you're entitled to. This boyfriend that you supposedly love so much is described purely in terms of what a nice thing he is for you and how all his good qualities enhance your image of yourself. It's a paper portrait of a trophy not a person. Hundreds of words on your feelings. Nary a word on how embarrassed, hurt, rejected he must feel.

Dump him. He deserves better.

Agree honey.
I know but...the way I dress goes a bit OTT. Like...it's just not appropriate thinking about it. I think it is so I can attract attention and...I should not be arsed about that with a BF.

You sound very immature

BF is absolutely fine.

And there isn't anything wrong with a woman expressing her feelings and considering her wants and entitlements 🙂

Women can do that you know haha! They're allowed these days! 😂

It's interesting...when a woman expresses her feelings and considers what she wants...what she needs....she is called self centred.

Come on, now! 😂

You sound like you have extremely low self-esteem and need compliments and flirting from men to make you feel validated. That's really pitiful in a woman of 40. You should end your relationship for your boyfriend's sake. Set him free to find a woman who will truly love him. Shag about as much as you want, if you think that will make you happy, but I reckon you'll end up feeling even more worthless than you currently do.

It is a kind of addiction, feels good in the moment, but will destroy you longer-term.

My self esteem is very high. I an completely happy with who I an and what I have got.

Sleeping about/casual encounters is just something I have enjoyed. It doesn't massage the ego...I don't need that. I just love the sex.

This place is mad...a 40 year old that takes care of herself, who expresses her own feelings, who likes sex, who is attractive = bad, bad woman. Bloody hell...that is terrifying.

Women do not need men to feel good about themselves, you know 😂 some women...like me....feel good about themselves already and just like having sex with lots of different men because the sex feels good 🤷🏼‍♀️

You’re not just “expressing your feelings”. You are manipulating a decent sounding man into being in a relationship with you when you will constantly be looking for sex elsewhere.

You are disrespecting him to the point that he might not choose to be in a relationship with you if he had all the facts. But instead, you are
deceitful and manipulative so that he is being used for a relationship
that only suits you.

If you can’t be on social media without cheating, I suspect even Tesco will be a problem for you eventually

You seem pretty satisfied with yourself and happy with your decisions, so why are you here?

Yes re: addiction.
I do have an addictive personality.
It is on my radar. Thank you.

And there isn't anything wrong with a woman expressing her feelings and considering her wants and entitlements 🙂

Women can do that you know haha! They're allowed these days! 😂

They certainly can and I couldn't agree more. But you just sound utterly self absorbed and a bit dim. But I suspect this is being purposely done and you are not a genuine poster tbh.

Why have you posted on here? To brag about how fucking gorgeous you are, what a diamond your poor boyfriend is, how you pulled a 26yo? No-one's saying you're a BAD woman. You're a sad woman, you just don't realise.

Is this some kind of strange reverse thread? And the big reveal is that you’re a man?

Try romancing your fella.
Book hotel and drag him off in lunch time.
Or taking him for dinner and tease him , then book hotel there and then.
Picnic in the open and seduce him.
There are lots of ways to plan surprise sex.
Which is what you seem to want.

3/10

You sound a bit, erm, unsavoury

If your dp wants a monogamous relationship and you want him, you need to be monogamous.

I suspect you want the social status of a relationship and none of the commitment or work.

I think you need to break up with your poor partner and be single having flings. You arent ready for a long term commited relationship and maybe never will be. Thats fine as lomg as youre not lying to and cheating on someone else and playing with their heart. Honestly. Make up your mind. If you can only keep your current partner by lying to him then you arent worth shit as a partner.
If you get your excitement by the thrill of cheating then noone can help really. Maybe you need an open relationship or swinging?
You wont het many people condoning lying and cheating because sleeping around gives you a kick because its so ultimately damaging for the poor cuck at home who often never is able to truly trust someone again. Its a huge abuse of trust.

I also dont really understand why so many women feel validated by such male attention. Its hardly difficult for most women to get a man to shag them. Easiest thing in the world.
Maintaining a strong intimate relationship with a life partner is much more of a challenge

Noone gives a fuck that you like to sleep with different men. People are judging the fact youre fucking around with your partners heart and emotions, when tbh, he sounds like hes given you another chance because he loves you and you are throwing that back in his face because you feel entitled to do what you want, lie about it and abuse trust. Thats pretty shitty behaviour.

No way this is real!! Why start a thread to prove to people you don't know how happy you are?!
Trolly mcTrollface needs to try harder!

My BF would die if I did that 😂

He isn't one of those types I'm afraid 😂

Yawn. You done yet?

Complete rubbish