How many of you have had a one night ‘free pass’ from your marriage?

[Blueberry001]

Question in the title.

One night, with someone else, nothing else after and never would be, not discussed further?

Have never even heard of such a thing.

No. That's not a thing in this house.

Never heard of it and it sounds like cheating imo. Can’t believe anyone would agree to that!

WTF no way

What a juvenile post.

No! I haven't & I wouldn't want one, I've been married almost 30 years. What a weird idea.

Eh? No. Just no.

Not ever going to even be discussed.

Not at all juvenile.

Genuine question - not considered the norm, hence the question.

Haven't done it here but I think it could be a good idea for some couples. Would love to do it but dp would be hugely against it.

I love dp but sometimes I crave a break! I think he could do with it sometimes too. If you can both handle any jealousy, I think it could work.

Who you writing for ?

DH has suggested it.

We’re both a bit stale I suppose - were very open and frank - right now it’s not working but it’s not to say we won’t recover from this patch.

I’m open to it but concerned it’s on the table as something is already lined up for him.

Doubt my DH would fancy the no-sex quarantine period afterwards while we waited to see if he’d contracted any STDs from the other woman. I’d want AIDS tests and everything before he came near me again.

The idea that never speaking of something means that it will have no impact sounds fascinating How's that working for you?

And what if the third party wants to speak of it? Even if you two are totally detached from it, you can’t guarantee how the third party will feel or react.

So you want to have a night with someone else - no strings - and DH stays home and looks after the kids . And then you go home and everything goes back to normal . Hmmm . Nope nope nopetty nope. Not much point being married if you're looking for "a night off". That's not what marriage is about

Just read your update. Sounds like DH already has someone in mind. This sort of thing has never been a cure for a stale marriage - more like a death knell. Either stay or go, but don't kid yourself that this would help to reactivate your relationship.

It's a film, can't remember who was in it. This is where it originated.
It's the age old permission to cheat.
We have had a 30 year "free pass" neither of us has felt the need to use it.
I think it's a good idea and can take the pressure off the whole monogamy thing.

Indecent Proposal? Though the money makes a difference I guess

Can’t say I have, or want to.

I remember Jonathan Ross said his wife gave him a free pass with a major celeb, he declined but said she was sooo fabulous for saying it.

I don't think he thought she was so fabulous when she had an affair

He absolutely has someone lined up, OR has already cheated and looking for a way out of the guilt. That’s what I’d assume. That also might be the answer to your “rough patch”. He’d never offer you up so freely without him getting something pretty fucking big in return. Prick.

You can do what you like, whatever floats your boats, but maybe don't ask silly questions on here. I guess you haven't got a free bus pass !

And once he got his “ free pass” for one night, I doubt he’d be satisfied and happy to have gotten “it”( her I mean) our if his system never to be repeated. I’d also assume it would be the beginning or continuation of an affair. Surely you can’t be so guidable?

Not a silly question.

Wanted to know if anyone else had been through or thought about similar - it’s a new concept to me!