Hello.
Argument with my husband. He thinks I'm being dramatic by being upset. I am so upset I'm contemplating leaving but I haven't told him this yet.
For context toddler is present the entire time. I walk into the bedroom and saying morning just about to go collect the shopping (this is the first thing I have said to him today). He says oh so we're not having sex then. I say what with toddler (I say his name not toddler) awake? He says yes put him in his room and put the gate on he can bounce on the bed. I say I can't do that he will want to come out or need me for something. He's 22 months old. He says but he always bounces on the bed whilst you do things like put the washing away. I say this takes a few minutes and he can come out when he wants and I can go in and check on him. He says oh so putting the washing away is more important than having sex. I say no but you can't compare the two. He says shut the f up. I say don't swear in front of toddler. He says shut the f up again. I say stop swearing in front of toddler! He then picks up the pillow he was laying at and throws it at me with force. His aim was pretty bad and it would have hit toddler in the face if I didn't manage to intercept it. Yes only a pillow but a very hard throw and short distance. I say that almost hit toddler! And he shouts I was aiming for you it wasn't going to hit him. At this point I remove toddler from room. I deeply regret not doing this sooner but I wasn't expecting it to escalate like this.
He has shouted and sworn in front of toddler before. I have gotten upset but forgiven. Now I feel I've forgiven and it's escalated to something more physical if I forgive this surely it will escalate again.
I don't want to leave him. But I don't want my toddler to ever witness something like that again. For context he works full time and I am a SAHM. When home he is either asleep or on pc and it's a miracle if he interacts with toddler for more than 10 minutes. He once asked me to get out of the bath to change toddlers nappy (which he ended up changing but not before telling me he hated me for making him do it). The only thing making me consider staying is that my toddler does adore him as when they do play together it is great. And we also have happy moments. Would this incident make you overlook the happy the moments and leave? How would you respond? He's currently at the gym and I'm not sure if he's returning before going to work.