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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

999 replies

JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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SirVixofVixHall · 24/09/2019 19:59

Agree, hope you are alright OP. You have shown astonishing resilience, but this must all be incredibly stressful.
Gin Cake

SirVixofVixHall · 24/09/2019 20:01

Where has the chocolate emoji gone ? We neeeeeeeeed chocolate !

DNo · 24/09/2019 20:03

I honestly can't believe C created this absolutely massive fuck up because she sent the text to the wrong person! She is seriously messed up in the head but it's meant you now have a new focus on your group of "mum friends". You are 100% better off without them, I'm so sorry you are going through this.

EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB · 24/09/2019 20:10

@SirVixofVixHall type [ chocolate ] without the spaces. Chocolate

Hope pick up was uneventful today, OP.

JaysusWept · 24/09/2019 20:13

Thanks for all the replies. A rather underwhelming pick up.
I got there just before the bell. C, M and L were there. They saw me, some looking over at me, talking amongst themselves, giggling - I may be being paranoid, but I doubt it. I got DD and left straighaway.
Now to do it all again tomorrow!
(Thank God school’s are off this Fri and Mon - never been so thankful for all these school breaks!)

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AliasGrape · 24/09/2019 20:14

Couple more for your playlist jaysus

CandyLeBonBon · 24/09/2019 20:15

@JaysusWept eventually you'll stop looking. Shake it off

loveyoutothemoon · 24/09/2019 20:16

Well done!

It'll blow over soon X

Bouffalant · 24/09/2019 20:19

Pile of absolute cunts OP.

Pimmsypimms · 24/09/2019 20:19

Fuck 'em op. They are expecting drama and by going grey rock, it'll be an anti climax for them. They'll turn on each other soon enough. You are doing so well. Fucking hate bullies, especially grown adults who should know better Thanks.

Iamdobby63 · 24/09/2019 20:23

Absolute cows.

WingingIt101 · 24/09/2019 20:24

Been following from the start and just wanted to send some support OP. You’ve behaved with resilience and dignity in a situation I would have crumbled in and all in the face of it being horribly unjust. Keep going - it will feel horrid for a bit longer but you’ve got all of us in your corner even if we are only there “digitally”! X

BookwormMe2 · 24/09/2019 20:29

Keep your head held high, OP, you're doing great. And take great satisfaction in knowing that, at some point down the line, C will do the same to one of the others - or maybe it'll happen to her. Whichever one it is they will come crawling back to you in the hope you'll be supportive but you'll be far enough down the line not to care.

JaysusWept · 24/09/2019 20:32

Thanks all. DD still happily playing with the other kids in school, no problems there, so that’s all that matters. I know she’ll be left out of out of school play dates and things but I’ll deal with that if/when they come.
Think grey rock is the way to go.

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MarshaBradyo · 24/09/2019 20:32

Oh god well done op top marks

Great about your dd

Flossdancing · 24/09/2019 20:37

I bet C wont be so giggly and happy when shes not got the bitches to stand with. Ah well fuck them. Youve handled it really well. Silence and no reaction from you will piss them off. My C hated no responses/silence Grin

valleysareus · 24/09/2019 20:37

Once they know they aren't getting a reaction from you they'll soon get bored. Typical bully tactics. Your doing great!

Musti · 24/09/2019 20:41

Thing is, those women know that it's all lies. Despite appearances and immature giggling, they will be feeling uncomfortable inside because it's a really shitty thing to do and their friendship will never be the same either. They will never be able to trust each other.

So now you're free to make other friendships, real ones this time and don't give those pathetic idiots another thought.

SirVixofVixHall · 24/09/2019 20:44

How old are they ? Nine ?
Some people spend their lives behaving as though they are still in the playground.

Skippety · 24/09/2019 20:51

Well done OP. You’re totally taking the right approach now. Everyone here is behind you.

FishandChippies · 24/09/2019 21:00

I’m so angry at these so called bloody adult women. You rock btw @JaysusWept just keep doing what you’re doing

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/09/2019 21:09

Well played, OP. I remember that horrible sinking sensation of people nudging each other and gossiping, and am sharing this story in order to empathize. In my case, it happened when I was sexually harrassed (and later stalked) in my workplace and I reported the abusive creep and it all went down formal channels and became very unpleasant. Amazingly enough, the worst of it happened after I reported him and suddenly found myself a pariah. Members of my department were asked to witness to his behaviour on record, and I was later able to read those reports. When I did so, I cried and was physically sick. They all sided with the abuser, minimizing my account and preferring to believe that their eccentric, 'lovable' colleague couldn't possibly be a sex pest so therefore it must be the woman (me) who was lying. I ended up on protracted sick leave because of illness caused by the stress. When I returned to work, for a long time I was the one wanting to hide in a corner whilst others sneered and blanked me, which infuriated me because I'd done nothing wrong whatsoever. And as in your case, the evidence was all there but the truth didn't matter. They'd chosen their preferred narrative, and that was the end of that.

A few years on I'm still here. I don't give the time of day to the colleagues who decided to side with a sex pest (who was, BTW, hoofed out). What I learned from this episode is that life's an unfair bucket of shit, and I got this additional truckload of it thanks to having the temerity to have been a victim of harrassment and abuse. How dare I assert my own boundaries, protect my bodily autonomy, stand up against a sex pest, and ask my employers to exercise their legal duty of care?

I felt awful for a long time; doubtless you will too. But now I'm flying, and doing better than ever. I breeze past the ex 'demi-friends', greet them, but don't engage in conversation. And I no longer give a flying bison's backside what they think. Soon, neither will you. And that's a promise. You've handled this like a champ. Cake Gin Flowers

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 24/09/2019 21:15

Good woman, well done. Tomorrow will be that bit easier.

AryaStarkWolf · 24/09/2019 21:20

Disappointed in M considering she was with you when you confronted Cs DH but not surprised, assholes the lot of them, it's the injustice of it all that really pisses me off

MrsPerfect12 · 24/09/2019 21:22

Glad it wasn't bad for you and please your DD is not affected in anyway. Xx

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