Dating thread 170: Know your worth

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@KhaleesiTargaryen

Haha, yes, I did that once - conservative outfit date 1, vavavoom dress date 2. He definitely noticed...!

But I dress up for my own enjoyment as much as anything else. I don't get a chance to wear nice things very often.

I stopped at "bird" sorry

@lifegoes same. But I fear it just gets worse.

I also stopped at bird.

I'm fine with speaking generally about bios but c&p'ing someone's bio here isn't cool.

Just caught up with thread
SBD1 I am similar to you in that I am very generous re gifts (despite not having the salary to match it), have made thoughtful Xmas hampers,tickets for shows,hotel overnighters,spa days etc for people unworthy of them last Christmas even had to get refunds for all Christmas items I'd bought for an iron of 6 weeks who turned out to be an alcoholic have even pretty much forced an iron to accompany me to a show as he dumped me despite knowing I had bought us the tickets and I knew he'd love it so insisted we still go as 'friends'.

jesuis how do you become an ultimate member of Love Honey?

@CocoKoko123 I became automatically after I'd spent over £100. Which wasn't much in there. Is this for toys because I find Bondara better.

Oh it's actually £50 now @CocoKoko123

Thanks life by that score I should def be an ultimate member scuttles off to check status on Lovehoney and sit on hands to stop me from buying any more stuff

Ok, noted, twinkle cave and bird isn't OK here. I learned English in this country and this is how ppl here speak (from bottom of the barrel to cream de la cream), so don't blame me...
I don't think there is anything wrong in pasting someones bio here- no names, no pics- fell free to correct me. This was just an example of how women portray themselves. I wouldn't be surprised if my bio was pasted somewhere and scrutinised- frankly, I do not care.
I will not drop any pics here but trust me, everyone moaning about men in toilets and without shit and lions and so on have not seen what opposite sex is doing. I really don't give a toss- if I don't like something I swipe left. I'm beginning to think that nobody really knows what they actually want...

Date with Mr Tuxedo was a total non starter. So we met and he was really handsome, much nicer than his pictures and he gave me the look so I think he fancied me too. It was all going well then about 15 mins in he starts sneezing and coughing a bit before asking "you don't have a cat or dog do you?" To which I reply "yes I have a cat, it was in my bio". He started getting worse and worse over the next 20 mins, eyes streaming, nose running - the lot! I ended up just suggesting we call it a night and he gratefully accepted!

Honestly if you have allergies that severe, surely you'd be checking peoples bios or even asking if they have pets before arranging a date he was so apologetic and clearly embarrassed and thankfully I can see the funny side of it but god, what a waste of make up!!

not shit- shirt, eh, why can't messages be edited after sending ;/

For what it's worth- I'm happy to paste my bio here. I'm sure it's been places already LOL

Oh dazzling what a disappointment.

I'm messaging Mr Goatee and have discovered he is a bit shorter than me (one inch). I am terribly shallow about height and suddenly worried about meeting him. But Mr HK is barely taller than me and I have zero issues whatsoever so I'll try not to prejudge.

@MoreNiceCereal Ahh, I think I'd feel the same as you. But you never know, he might blow you away! No harm in meeting him to find out.

Well that went well. I felt better on the walk back and we went back to his... not for sex but it was still nice 😉

I've been open about not being completely 'available'. Ironically I've heard nothing from the other guy today, the first time in I can't remember how long he has gone a day without texting me. Maybe that in itself is a sign.

Did NOT shag STBX. I got cross at him. Then went out and got drunk (woth friends. Not alone) for first time in 20 years. Then cane home. Fell over. Giggled at STBX. Then went upstairs and had highly inappropriate and steamy msg chat with, hrm, Mr Exhibitionist.
It feels like cheating on my husband. V weird. But satisfying

You are not cheating, just messing about (unless this is also something I'm not allowed to say) But fcuk it- you are just messing about.

Its not cheating because we're getting divorced and he's planning his future with somebody else. But it still feels like cheating to me.

@dazzlinghaze oh definitely. There is so much about his personality I really like so far, I'm going to definitely meet him. He's from my home country and that in itself is a pull. I'll just wear flats. 😂

Update. So still no reply from mr fake tattoos gf. I've done what I could. Meantime I got chatting to someone and together it was hilarious. Sooo much fun. Rapid banter. I felt vaguely excited. We got onto deeper topics. That was thurs. Fri began well similar tone but in work so slower. Then....yep. last night sending me pics of him lying down with a visible stiffie under his jeans apropos of nothing. Continual reference to sex. I tried gentle deflection and more humour and got grey ticked so I deleted him, switched my phone off and went to bed thinking about the end of love in Great Britain. This am wake up to messages like 'I want to have sex with you now' etc. I mean, there are men I'll do that chat with (clearly. Haha) but for me if I do that I've already consigned them to 'one night' or sexting only and I felt there might be more to it with this one. Oh well. I'm gonna send him a link to fabswingers.

@InTheTempest great update! Glad it went well 😁
@supercali77 ugh. That’s disappointing. You know, in my experience, the ones with the great chat often turn out to be like that for me. 🤔

@MoreNiceCereal I’d give him a chance too.

@DustMyselfOff sounds like a fun night - here’s to many more! That limbo stage is rubbish but there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Hope the head is ok this morning 😅

That should have been a 😁 @InTheTempest... still half asleep here 😂💤

I suspect I'm still slightly squiffy... or I've magically reached a period in my life where hangovers are not a thing. Who knows?