Dating thread 170: Know your worth

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@KhaleesiTargaryen I totally get what you mean. I'm trying today to not even allow myself to second guess why I ended it. It's just it all makes more sense now about the way he was. In a way knowing he might miss what we had (it was a year) and that he might miss me is helping me today. But I also know I 100% got out before it all went mental.

The truth is he's probably relieved it's over if he's planning his wedding 😂

@JeSuisPrest I totally understand. I'm not available for anything else right now because of Mr S and getting over it. And Mr B is lovely but I don't feel we are compatible long term. But we have fun and the sex is good. We only see each other once a week mainly for an overnighter in a hotel. But we go for something to eat and a few drinks too. We have been to the cinema and met up a few times not for a sleepover.

I'm not a robot and I do have feelings for him. But not lurve. I like him and enjoy his company. And I would care about him if he was having a hard time and vice Versa.

@InTheTempest but after a few months you're not sure if you are exclusive or not and you want to know. That's totally reasonable. The conversation doesn't have to be heavy. Are you still on the apps? Are you actively dating others? Are you having sexual sex with other people. All easy questions and then you decide what you want to do when you know what the answers are.

Just sex!! Not sure what sexual sex is!! 😂

I'm amazed so many people have had an issue with footballerS (plural). I pretty much exclusively matched with accountants, academics, solicitors, people who work in IT etc. Nothing so noteworthy as a (minor) professional sportsman 😂.

On men in kilts (@JeSuisPrest), MrSG (who is not Scottish and has never previously work a kilt) told me that he'd wear one if we get married (it was a drunken, not actually a proposal conversation, 'we could get married in and I'll totally wear a kilt'). I'll be holding him to that (he had legs that would look very good in one). I did warn him that they're itchy.

@lifegoes I think you are most definitely better off without him. He's busy planning his wedding to someone he's not faithful to. That's not exactly auspicious.

@DustMyselfOff I agree. Definitely DO NOT shag your ex. Under any circumstances.

supercali he sounds like such comedy gold he could be good friends with Mr Unimpressed Cock!

@WooMaWang oh I agree. I guess it's coming to terms with the lies and reminding myself why I even ended it.

I know he's not on the apps (I still am but not met anyone since been back in touch with him). I don't think he is dating anyone at all but know he has slept with a couple of other girls but this is a while ago and I don't know about recently. It's actually 3 weeks since I've seen him now- he's been on hols.

I've not even heard from him today which is very rare. Maybe that in itself is a sign and I really should just throw myself back into tinder. I like him but the truth is it does hurt that it's not more. Thing is I know the reality, I guess I've just not wanted to face up to it til now.

So there are 2 dates i could potentially go on, including the footballer. I'm curious to see how much of the stereotype he is!

There is also someone at work who is leaving next week who likes me. But he is 19!!! And that's just too young. My lower limit on tinder is 21 (see I'm really not bothered about serious just someone to have a decent time with)! Everyone I've been with before has always been older than me, often a lot older. Cath Fach is the youngest I've 'dated' if you can call it that.

I really must point out I look young for my age. He thought I was 23, 24. 😂

@InTheTempest did you meet the footballer on tinder by any chance?

1 day 19 hours and 36 minutes til I get to see Mr Cactus.

He said we can have a lazy day. I hope its not too lazy, giggidy

Kidney infection all cleared up and condoms at the ready @SBD1

Well I'm on antibiotics till tomorrow but I'm hoping my energy levels come straight back by Sunday!

I met my footballer on a night out. He has played in major teams and for his country. He was not boyfriend material at all, but good fun!

@SBD1 I’m guessing you’re planning on draining your energy levels on Sunday 😂

I could give you another thing I plan on draining...

Too far?

😂😂 this is a family show!

I did meet the footballer on tinder but am pretty certain he's genuine having spoken through social etc too. Plus he's nowhere near premier league 😄

Haha I'd love to know if we have met the same footballer. @KhaleesiTargaryen

World Cup 2002 @lifegoes

for England

Yeah. @KhaleesiTargaryen

😱

Still could be anyone of them @KhaleesiTargaryen plus it's an ex if it's the same one.

I know who I'd put money on it being 😂

Well I've arranged a date tonight with the one who's brother I met before...