Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Bats yes you have missed the update but it went well thanks, she's coming over to mine tomorrow.
To everybody posting about body issues and mum tums, JeSuis covers this topic far better than I but, at the point we're getting naked with a woman then we already fancy them and have a reasonable idea what they'll look like naked. Unless they're an idiot there isn't a man around that expects women in their 30's and 40's or anybody who's had children for that matter that expects a flat toned tummy.
Be assured that if a bloke is in bed with you he is not focused on your tummy, he's wondering if his knob is big enough, is he satisfying you, please don't come too soon!
It's not like us blokes don't have issues with our own physiques. I'd love a 6 pack, but I'm 48 and I don't go to the gym, so some things you just have to accept and go with it.

Ant thank you that helps, can I ask another man question as you raised it (figuratively!), I struggle to relax enough to ahem “finish” and I sometimes wonder if blokes hate that as they will be worrying about not completing the task!?!

Yes, Yes to the Crepey breasts! I actually quite like the way I look AS LONG as I stay as STILL as a STATUE. It's when I move it all goes wrong! All that creping and sagging. Had a guy who wanted to do it from behind and all I could think of was how my stomach skin would be looking like hanging down from that angle, and whether or not he would be able to see!

I am ashamed to say I practise in the mirror how I can move my arms and body without it making my breasts go all crepey and wrinkled!

I genuinely didn't realise these changes to one's body happened under the age of 60. I was really shocked when I noticed them. Really shocked.

Thanks for the reassurance ANT330 - that helps!

@supercali77 also don't feel bad for deleting messages without reading them.

Oh and you can block or report people too. My block list is very long - mostly married men.

Saturday night lovely daters! I’ll be following along from the sofa! X

That was a great response @Ant330 thank you.

I have a kidney infection. Grumble grumble.

No sex for 18 months, meet a guy who’s ace in bed and BAM. Antibiotics it is

That's a big grumble, SBD1!

I'm grumbly, too, Mr Hong Kong has had to rearrange for tomorrow, he's only been in the country a short while and has lots of family descending unexpectedly this evening. Obviously family comes first. Siiigggh. It's only an extra 12 hour wait or so.

@SBD1 that sucks

A kidney infection @SBD1 that seems quite severe. I am prone to UTIs and have to take steps to help prevent them. But thankfully they have never turned into anything as severe as a kidney infection.

@Notcoolmum I meaaaan I knew I had a UTI on Tuesday. Tried to flush it out, didn’t work.

Used to get them a lot with my exes, didn’t get a single one with my ex. But thats to size related one suspects

Size? @SBD1

@lifegoes I always get UTIs with sexual partners who are well endowed.

My ex husband was rather small and had ED, I never got a single UTI when I was with him

Whatwhywhen no I wouldn't mind that, but I would like to be told and know if there is something I could be doing to 'help', otherwise it could make you wonder if you're just being perceived as shit in bed. We all have our insecurities after all 😉 As long as there is open communication it's all good.

@SBD1 never in my life have I had that due to size and I've had huge partners. I only get cystitis from too much sex in a short space of time tbh. I must be very lucky

@WhatWhyWhen Sometimes it just doesn’t happen, I don’t stress about it as I know it’s normal to happen sometimes and there are other ways to finish the job, and if that didn’t work, it’s not a biggie.

But if you’re not relaxed enough to be into it, just tell him, no point carrying on if you’re not having a good time.

lifegoes it was mainly plagiarised from Jesuis's much better and funnier response 😉

@Ant330 I remember her post from another thread. It was so good. But sometimes I just need to keep hearing it 🙈

Was that the makeup in the morning quote? Loved that one

@WhatWhyWhen why can't you relax enough to finish? I'd be pretty frustrated if I was having sex but not orgasming. Can you finish yourself whilst he watches so he gets some tips. Or get him to try something different?

Well! Am now off to see last night's new iron in a bit - he changed things around to make.time to see me since my last minute cancellation. I shall call him Mr Silver Fox.

I do tend to tell my partner that I struggle, and when I say struggle I do mean I’ve only finished with 4 people, ever! And never through PIV. I know it’s not a physical thing because alone I’m ok ha. I’ve wanted to try toys in the bedroom but haven’t met anyone I’ve got to the stage I can suggest that with.

I think it’s because I worry I’m taking too long and then because my head thinks that it just doesn’t happen. Got worse since I was attacked as sadly that was one of the 4 but it was forced (hard to explain) so that hasn’t helped.

Maybe that’s why I’m still hooked on MrConfusingneeheadfuck, I felt comfortable enough to tell him and he made it clear it didn’t matter how long it took he was taking on the challenge (and did) 🙈

I enjoy myself anyway, I just don’t get the end goal.