Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

@onlymebutdifferent I’m glad you’re putting it behind you. MrTravels sounds interesting.

Now I want to read your thread @UnimpressorOfCocks. I feel totally out of the loop.

Sorry you’re feeling poorly @BatshitCrazyWoman.

I’ll keep my update short, as it feels a long way from ‘dating’ and is a potential thread derailer. All is well with MrSG; we’ve applied to borrow a few hundred thousand pounds together 😂. He’s being really lovely about a slightly ridiculous medical situation that has unfolded today that has unexpectedly left me without contraception for a few weeks and with the possibility that, without any need to DTD over the next few days, some very determined sperm might achieve their purpose in life.

Mostly he’s just said that he’s glad I’m OK, but he’s also mentioned several times that we could just go for it anyway. It appears he’s gone a bit broody at the prospect. I fully expect to report the arrival of a period (the first I’ll have had in a decade) in the next few days though.

I’m totally fine. The worst case scenario here would be a pregnancy and that’s not the end of the world.

I think you’re reasonable to be annoyed at MrB. The issue you have is nothing to do with the DC (so you definitely don’t need to worry that we think you’re unsupportive there). It does only take a second to send a message to let you know there’s been a change of plans. And then to spend the phone all wittering in about his ex.

When are you going away with your DD? It sounds like the break will be just what you need. And your 30th birthday too. How exciting.

@Ant330 oh nothing stalkery, I just know his industry and I know what he does and what it pays is all. He wasn't vulgar enough to tell me! And I'm not after a bloke's money, am financially independent and proud of it, but my ex was very feckless and it caused me a ton of anxiety throughout our marriage, plus I know he only stayed with me because I paid his way and it was easier than working. So I am just very scared of being in that situation again.

@WhatWhyWhen and @UnimpressorOfCocks thank you for the advice. I am not asking 3 because I am scared he will say no I guess. Or say yes out of a sense of politeness (he really is rather lovely and polite) and not like me And because I have ignored Rule 3 because basically I haven't dated for over 20 years and have NO IDEA what I am doing!

I really need to catch up on the thread now, and @Unimpressor, I really need to read your story.

Really busy working all week so need to lay off WhatsApp anyway I guess...

I am SO bad at this.

Haha. Well who knows. It’s really the unexpected possibility if one right now.

It does sound like you’ve got a lot on too. Starting college is exciting. Maybe talk to us first before going with the ‘why don’t you challenge him to a duel?’ type of message.

Is this a thread about dating advice? I hope so. I have a situation at the moment and for some daft reasons I’m a bit embarrassed to talk to my RL friends about it.
There’s this man who appeared in my local pub a few months ago. He started coming in and sitting on his own, quiet drink etc. We all assumed he’d recently separated. Gradually he’s getting to know our friendship group (mixed sexes). He seems nice, funny, very easy on the eye etc. A few weeks ago we swapped numbers but there hasn’t been any real communication. This weekend everyone apart from us went home. We were in a quiet corner, we kissed
I haven’t heard from him at all, but I haven’t messaged him either. I’ve had just bloody awful relationships in the past and lack confidence in that department. I know there’s something between us but all of our interactions have been in the pub and in drink. I worry that I’m totally misreading the situation.
I’d resigned myself to staying single and have been for years so this has come from nowhere. I’m not even sure I want anything to happen, as nice as he seems. The whole idea of dating or having sex with someone new makes me cringe. (I’m 40s).
My main worry is that he just thinks I’m a drunken idiot (I do need to drink less). I’m not bothered about the lack of messages at all, I’ll see him at the weekend probably so we’ll catch up then. I’m minded just to pretend the kiss didn’t happen. He probably wishes it hadn’t, I don’t know

First thread baby! Sorry @woo

Let’s not go getting too excited about the possibility of a baby. Otherwise I might start thinking it’s an excellent idea or something. xxx

Haha. Kisses. As if I’m sending a text message. 😂

Well Mr SG seems to to agree
And you've got that big house...

😅

You are not helping here, @Ginmel. Not at all. 😆

Oooooh just as I was going to pick out a hat - it's actually booties that's required 🤣

Anytime!

Two hats and something for the baby shower

I do like the idea of a woo and Mr sg baby. Lovely genes together

Will one be enough though?...

I would wait and see how he is with you this weekend @Aminuts23 he could be thinking the same. And welcome to the thread.

You are both terrible. 😂

MrSG isn’t much better, tbh.

😇😇😇

Woo 😂😂
Sounds like MrSG is getting broody, new big house, rooms to fill 😉😂

I think he’s quite taken with the idea that the unexpected possibility requires feats of endurance from spermatozoa. Because clearly that reflects well on him. 😂

I did love this line now that I have know you are okay

some very determined sperm might achieve their purpose in life.