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Dating a man with MH issues, WWYD?

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SatOnTheRemote · 23/08/2019 23:33

I've been dating a new man for a couple of months but he seems to have gone quite cold lately.

His contact became less and less and it would always be me initiating dates, he was quite short with me through text yesterday so I decided I'd keep intact my dignity and wished him luck for the future saying I'll be leaving it there.

He comes back to me today apologizing for taking his mood out on me, being quite sweet and said he'd been feeling quite weighed down (he has mental health issues)

I offered my support if he felt he needed to talk, or have somebody keep him company and i said this because he said he'd been sat couped up in his room in the dark. He's now gone quiet again.

What would you do in this situation? Do I continue to reach out or do I leave him be?

I care about him so I feel uncomfortable walking away if he really is in crisis, but I don't want to make a nuisance of myself, or a fool.

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Millymotto · 24/08/2019 16:44

If I was being really cynical, I’d say she was his “good guy” cover story - he must be ok if such a lovely woman with kids is his great friend!

Anyway, glad you got it sorted so fast. Keep those spidery senses working well in future, and make sure you don’t jump from frying pan to fire cos you think you’ve met someone normal (happened to me). No matter how good they look on paper, or how well they present, take your time in getting to know them. Enjoy yourself but keep your “judgmental” thoughts and observations on active duty!

Have a good weekend. And be glad it was so short and over with quickly.

CokeZeroHero · 24/08/2019 16:51

Have you posted about this man before? Sounds familiar. Just dump him once and for all.

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