what happens after sex?

[Pukkaupp]

For anyone in a LTR +10 years - I’m interested to know what happens between you after sex? Do you get lovely words from your OH? Is there laughter and romance or is it a quickie, no reference to it for the rest of the day and just get on with a normal day? I’m asking as I feel that I need some sort of verbal reassurance/loveliness/romance/intimacy after DTD. Is that unreasonable? Just wondering what others norm is?

@Pukkaupp 16 years and sometimes it's "I love you" a bit of spooning the sleep! Or a leap out of bed when you realise it's not the early morning quickie you thought 😂.
Anything more us reserved for the odd child free night or holidays 😂

Ha. I usually run to the loo while trying not to wake the baby, then we carry on whatever we were doing, but then time is short when you've got toddlers.

I usually say “Get off me - I’ve had my use of you now” and go straight to sleep. But I’m sure that’s just me - I think my DH would prefer a little more conventional romance....😂

We say thank you and keep kiss and i giggle a bit. DH goes to toilet. We go to bed or do what we were doing before

Cuddle and maybe talk about random stuff; then either go to sleep or get up and get on with the day.

Depends really, on how warm it is haha. And time of day.

Never without intimacy after, regardless though.

I’m asking as I feel that I need some sort of verbal reassurance/ loveliness/ romance/ intimacy after DTD

That would exhaust me personally but if it’s what you need you need to talk to him.

I normally run straight to the loo so I don’t get a UTI! DH and I have a lot of fun, don’t take it seriously. We don’t do anything mushy as we find most of it to be based on the Hollywood movie perception of what love and sex should be! It sets people, especially women, up to fail because it’s not real life!

As above, I’m up and straight to the loo as UTIs are awful, then I’ll get my long jammies on and get back into bed . We usually have a wee cuddle for a few minutes but we do that most nights anyway.

Depends... sometimes in the past (I'm not in a long relationship at the mo), we would cuddle and be loving, sometimes we would go clean up, always a cuddle I guess, not always deep loving words!

Thanks everyone. Maybe I'm expecting too much judging from these replies..we're trying to get back on track after a long drought so its a tricky one as I'm feeling very sensitive about it

As above, a "thanks babe, that was nice", a run to the loo and that's about it.

Depends, we might have a chat or go straight to sleep. Or if not in bed, depends.
We always cuddle as we still spoon after 15y+ together.

We tend to have a quick cuddle then go straight to sleep....

He turns over and goes straight to sleep

Usually we give some kind of verbal rating :o never thought about how weird that is before. Also "do you need baby wipes?" and then say goodnight. Sometimes I stroke his back if I'm feeling very lovey and not too tired. He doesn't stroke mine because I hate it.

I shove him onto the damp patch and turn over.

@cacklingmags hahaha!!

Never have sex these days but when we did, some comments like "thanks" "why don't we do that more often" , both go to bathroom, me for wee and a wipe and him to wash his dick in the sink (I used to get recurring thrush and sometimes he'd react to it) , then it was back to bed "I'm going to sleep well tonight", bit of a giggle then sleep. Not really cuddly people.

Usually have a bit of a cuddle, compliment each other on a quality shag, then he showers and goes to cook dinner (we have an evening window) and I doze a bit.

Leaping straight out of bed or going to sleep without so much as a by your leave is certainly impolite, but a lot of "romance", verbal reassurance and constant references to your sex throughout the day sounds a bit full-on for a long-established couple, especially if you have DC.

I can’t remember. It’s bittersweet reading about other people having laughs and fun. It’s been nearly 2 years for me. My H has told me multiple times that doesn’t find me attractive after 2 babies, so that’s that then.

We tend to turn over and go to sleep / get up depending on time of day. DP isn't one for hugging or kissing. Or words of endearment.

I'm definitely not expecting day long romance but considering we are trying to get things back on track, some sort of positivity!! Something nice? A cheeky wink and a bum slap or anything...!! I feel a bit despondent :(

Dp gets up, wipes his mess on a towel then chucks it at me to mop up with.

Run to the loo, high five, talk if theres time, resume daily life or sleep.

If you don't even get a brief cuddle and a "that was lovely", then yeah, that's a bit weak. What does he say when you tell him that's what you would like?