what happens after sex?

[Pukkaupp]

For anyone in a LTR +10 years - I’m interested to know what happens between you after sex? Do you get lovely words from your OH? Is there laughter and romance or is it a quickie, no reference to it for the rest of the day and just get on with a normal day? I’m asking as I feel that I need some sort of verbal reassurance/loveliness/romance/intimacy after DTD. Is that unreasonable? Just wondering what others norm is?

Safety wee.
Cuddle.
Tiny chat.
Lovely hazy nap.

We don't talk. Just cuddle up and go to sleep if it's the evening. Occasionally he'll ask "was that ok for you?" Or "sorry that was a bit quick!" He's lucky if he gets a response from me. I will give him a satisfied grunt and then snuggle up to him or he spoons me.

Straight back on the phone to read mumsnet

Saying thank you after sex?

Sex is something you do together. Saying thank you makes me think of a bygone day when sex was seen as something a man does to a woman. So you thank her for graciously allowing you to have sex on her.

Since I'm not providing a service, the idea of being thanked just sounds strange.

Saying thank you after sex? confused

Agreed! It’s creepy!

@RaleighJ please come back to the thread (or start one of your own). The way you are being treated is not loving, kind or respectful and you deserve all of those things.

OP, 13 years for us. He’s now snoring and I’m on mn (after the wee/ squeezing out of cum - sorry is that too much? )

Mutter "good job" or any other half arsed compliment and fall asleep 😁

Sometimes we cuddle but not so much in summer.

Depends where the wet patch is, if my wife is going to end up on it, the sheet must be changed, if I end up on it, tough!!

We are one of those sickening couples that are always physically affectionate, we hold hands, cuddle, kiss , butt slap, all of it

We tend to finish with a nice snuggle, pee break, and then on with our day, or off to sleep, depending on time of day.

Married 20 plus years

My last LTR we almost exclusively had morning sex (because that's what I like and he came to bed far too late for night sex.)

Sex
Compliment (e.g. "That was good", "Ahhh now I can start the day", "Thanks babe" (yes!!))
Bathroom for pee
Get dressed and go to work

Weekends:
Sex
Compliment
Bathroom
Make cups of tea and bring back to bed
More sex
Either go to the gym together or just lie in bed watching crap on TV

those people that say thank you after seems a bit strange. If OH said that to me I would certainly point out i've nor provided a service as i'm not a prostitute

I'm on who posted saying sometimes I'll say "thanks for that lad" and go to sleep myself. It's not me actually thanking him for having sex with me and it's not me treating me testing him like a second worker. It's us having a joke.

Dunno what happened with my my typos there.

On - one

Testing him like a second worker should be "treating him like a sex worker."