Im new here, but not really as I’ve often used mn for advice, weight loss etc. I’m 39, divorced a year now after 11 years married so this is all new to me and recently met a guy (3 months) on OLD, also divorced, he is late 40s with 2 daughters, 18 and 21. Things are getting more serious, spent the whole weekend together and he’s said he loves me and I think I’m feeling the same. I had a bad marriage, some DV, Liar and gaslighter, and am at the stage where I’d just like a straight forward relationship with someone I can trust.
On Sunday night, shortly before he left mine, he’d taken a really unflattering photo of me earlier and I had asked him to delete, at first he joked and said he would keep it forever, but could see I was embarrassed so said he would but he’d do it later, and he didn’t. He was in the loo so I decided to delete it myself, he’s let me use his phone camera before, and send messages when my phone wasn’t handy, so didn’t think it was a problem quickly deleting a picture of me. In his camera roll he’s got 100s of pictures of nude girls, they are all like nude selfies, not models, just women and girls in their bedrooms, at work, in cars, showing their fanjos, boobs, bums, and I say girls because lots were 18, they had captions on all the photos, like 18 and here’s my pussy, etc.
I don’t really have a problem with porn use, well I didn’t, I know my xh used it but It didn’t bother me because it kept him busy and away from me. But this feels different, his own daughters are the age of some of these pictures and I can’t help now but feel there’s something not right about it and he’s not someone I’d want to go any further with. Am I overreacting? Is this just normal for men now? I don’t feel jealous, just kind of sick.