Being called 'good girl'

[SarahH19]

What is it with some men in calling woman a 'good girl'?

Am I being unreasonable to be offended?

I've only dated one man who has used this phase towards me but I have heard it a few times. But what's with it?

I say ‘good boy’ to my husband sometimes and I used to say it to my dad. In those instances it’s just being silly/affectionate.

The point we are getting away from is whether someone would ever praise a 40 year old man at work by saying “Good boy”. Or whether anyone would say “Take this to the boy on Reception”

Well when posters start pontificating about "pretty universal usage in the past" they may cause derailment, it is true.

@bertrandrussell no, they wouldn't.

Same! My partner just called me this tonight while cuddling in bed & kissing my shoulder. I don’t take it as offensive neither. It’s very much a high valued compliment. I loved it! Don’t let these kind of post by jealous women make you feel like he’s trying to control you. You know your man and your relationship! My man would NEVER try to patronize or degrade me! Not in his character

My partner, who is South East London born and bred, used to refer to women as 'gels' when I first met him. He now calls us 'women' (wimmin). Job done.

My partner and I are switches, so he gets as turned on by me calling him "good boy" in a sexual scenario as I do when he calls me "good girl". There are no furry or daddy kinks here, no abuse or internalised misogyny; we both just have different times when we're feeling submissive and what we want most of all is to concentrate on pleasing the other, and to hear we've succeeded.

With anyone other than him in that setting though...nuh-uh, no way, fuck off with that.

I wouldn't say I like it from strangers or people I'm not attracted to, like my boss, a male friend, or male siblings and cousins/relatives. However, I would be okay with it with my partner. I mean it doesn't bother me at all unless he uses it for dirty talk or flirting and such.. but that's just me