Are my exectations unrealistic?

[CHARLonodn90]

I've been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks. There's a lot of good. But a few things that are bothering me: he doesn't seem very thoughtful.

Instance 1) I have a real problem with the heat and the tube (I live in London). I'm highly sensitive and it makes me feel quite unwell. He knows this. Anyway it was quite a hot day once and he really wanted me to go to his after work. I have a job at the moment where the hours are really long - i'm looking for another one - and its killing me. But I agreed to catch the tube to his after work. When I got there his flat was sweltering and every single window was closed. It took me ages to cool down and I felt disgruntled that he didn't think of me and open the windows and air the flat out. It made me feel like he didn't care about my comfort??

Instance 2) He texted the other day to ask how it was going. I explained that id had a bit of an emotional meltdown at work (the job really is killing me) but that I got over it. I also explained a few other bits and bobs about my day... Anyway all he responded was that he was horny and that he really needs to see me. I was fuming. I've tried to explain that I need someone more thoughtful and he went ballistic. Saying that I'm too sensitive and emotional . And that he didnt acknowledge the texts I sent as we've already spoken about it in the past. All I wanted was a "sorry you're feeling low" or something along those lines.

I just don't know what to do. He said he's sick of me complaining about tiny little things and i'm starting to wonder if I am being too much or if its right to want a man that's thoughtful??

How does it sound to others? My friends obviously agree with me but they're probably going to, right?

Thanks.

I'm intrigued how you met OP. A massive age gap imo & you would be doing yourself a big favour by ditching him.

Please dump him. He’s awful, and incredibly selfish.

Its hot all over @CHARLonodn90 not just in London! Stop being so precious, you sound like a Princess and i would not put up with it if i was your bf.

He's too old. Get rid.

Did you go ?
Are you a troll ?

He's trying to rush you along so you are deeply involved before you know it, and extricating yourself is much harder. Hence all the 'meet the kids, be my girlfriend,' he'll be wanting you to move in next.

I think he's afraid of being alone and has found you to be someone who is compliant and willing to put up with him and his unpleasantness, so he wants to secure you before you come to your senses.

At 35 do you want DC??
He is nearing 60!!!!
I would question why someone of his age is so friggin' immature.
You could well be his carer in the next 10+ years.
Do you want that for yourself in your 40's
He's too old.
End it and move on.

OP has not come back . Either the dinner went REALLY well and she has been reassured. , or she has other things to do during school holiday.

Op, by those messages,he doesn't like you.

I think you are looking for significant emotional support from someone who clearly and explicitly does not want to give it.

The intro to his children is way out of order. For you and the DC. He treats everyone around him with little regard. If he can do that to his dc don't hang around to see what he will do to you.

And he is too old for you.

Another vote for dump him. I thought this before I saw how old he is, I thought he sounded about 20.
He sounds selfish.

Sorry everyone, I’d meant to come back to this. It got a bit better, but then it all went down hill pretty fast. It’s taught me a very important lesson... to listen to my instincts. He just saw me as a piece of ass. That much is apparent....now! And, yes, too old. Thanks for all the advice. X