The last 18 years were a lie

[FromTheAshes]

Since finding out three weeks ago that my husband of 18 years has been a paedophile for the entire time we were together, I've also come to realise he's also a class A narcissist.

I can't go nc due to having to supervise weekly contact with our 2.5yo. The situation is complicated by him having moved in with my father who has dementia, to provide 24/7 care until his house sells and he has the funds for a care home so lots of opportunities/reasons for ongoing contact.

How in hell do I get through this?

I just wouldn't show up for those supervised visits. I wouldn't let him near my kid if he was just a narcissist, let alone a paedo. What's he gonna do, take you to court? Ha! Doubt it. Not if he'll have to go through the embarrassment of being called a paedophile again and being 'sneered at and ridiculed' (In his mind).

Learn the word 'no' well and make it your best friend. Don't compromise with him. Narcissists see that as weekness. If you give them an inch they take 20 miles, and still tell you you are being unfair. Your way or the highway from now on!

*weakness