I feel so awful about myself ...what did I do?

[sarere]

Been casually dating this guy.
He had only been single since March /April when I started dating him.
He's previous ex he bought a house for them to live but they split.
She was violent towards him.
He texts me every day but never speaks about where it's going or feelings etc.
After being in limbo I text him asking him if he wanted to see me Friday.
He said he was busy on Friday.
I said ok next week? He then said he had plans.
I said would you like me to stop asking you to meet up? If your not interested that's really ok but just let me know.
He replied saying "your asking too many questions lately "
"Chill out "
I said sorry and I just want to know where I stand.
I said "are you wanting to see me in the future"
He didn't give me a straight answer ..
Then sent me a picture a hour later of him at work then this afternoon he text asking if I had a nice day.
Last time I seen him was before I had my gall bladder removed and he was lovely to me,hugging me and kissing me.
He texts me every day ...
I'm confused
Do I just say
If you want to date me then date me ..if not fair enough
Ball is in your court now?

You're just as bad as him- posting pics on fb just to makes him jealous....what are you, 14 ??

As for him. He wants something casual & doesnt want to be asked every 5 mins what he wants. If you don't want that then thats fine....just leave him. Stop "nagging" & leave him be.

You 2 are not on the same page.

If he was genuinely interested in you, you wouldn't have to post these questions on mn or feel confused.

By posting pics on fb so it gets back to him, you're playing games yourself.

You obviously don't want a casual relationship and he doesn't want a serious one. Stop being his back up plan and go and date someone who wants the same as you.

How can you not realise you are simply filling a gap in time for him. He is probably used to texting his Ex all the time and now he is texting you randomly just to feel needed.

Cut him loose. You're messing with your head and he is in no position to get into another relationship.

Either you are this clingy annoying women he's making you out to be or he is messing with you so much that you need to cut him off for your own sanity. Have some self respect and WALK AWAY!!

Are you to tell your date that you took photos and put them on facebook so you kind of ex knows you are staying in waiting for him?

If not, why not? If it's not a big deal, you would feel free to tell your date.

He isn’t into you.
Move on. He told you he doesn’t want anything serious.
Move on and find someone who does want the same as you.
And don’t play games posting pictures. It’s none of his business what you do. Stop staying home waiting for him to drop you crumbs.
Yes you will get a reaction from him. But tomorrow you will left feeling worse than you currently are.

And those saying you don’t go straight Into a relationship don’t talk for everyone.

You sound obsessed. Even the plans you make not involving him are done with him in mind. He has been quite clear he doesn’t want anything more than a very casual thing. You either accept that or decide that you don’t want that and leave it there. Stop thinking bombarding him with texts is going to make him fall head over heels, it doesn’t work like that. Quite the opposite in fact.

Enjoy your date tonight Sarere!!!!

Have fun 😀

I didn't really have a good night if I'm honest
I just didn't feel right
He tried to kiss me and I rejected that
Guy number text me tonight ...he probably does want casual and maybe he's scared I want more

🤦‍♀️
I'm out too.

OP The way I see it you have a couple of choices

Continue to play this game he’s playing with you and messing with your emotions

Or take back some control and end it! No text no explanation.. nothing ! You’ve said enough! Then take time out, find someone else who’s really interested in a relationship with you.

Oooh I see what you want- here goes. You are right he secretly is madly in love with you - he just doesn’t realise it yet. Chase after him and harass him for dates - in no time the penny will drop and you’ll be in a committed relationship! Or, and far more likely, not as it all goes tits up and he flees from contact with you.

@Sarere, most of us have been here and done that which is why a lot of the advice is to RUN. Block and delete him. No good will come if this and it will make you very unwell. You appear emotionally vulnerable and that is what he is drawn to as you are easy to control and manipulate. So you can go through the motions in the hope things will turn out great (they won't) or you can stop all the game playing and head fuckery now. You are the one that's in control here!!!

Honestly men like the one you are currently hung up on are ten a penny. Arseholes

You deserve nothing more than a guy who will drop everything to make you feel you are his number one. Fuck him off. Fuck the other off. Spend the next few months at least indulging yourself totally and reading some self help books about self esteem and get some counselling