If the man you were dating said this would you walk away?

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I’ll try to keep this as brief as poss. Have been dating a guy for a few weeks and we went out for dinner last night which was lovely until he dropped into the conversation that he had found out his ex girlfriend (they split up 2 years ago) had just got engaged to someone else and it had ‘floored him.’ He said he will always regret losing her and finding out that she’d met someone else and moved on was difficult for him to process. He even said that she will always be the one who got away.

I kind of sat there with my mouth open while he rabbited on about how he felt lucky he was dating me as if I wasn’t on the scene he probably would have taken the news much harder. He then said the break up had left him with all sorts of issues that he was trying to sort out but he was finding it hard.

I came away from that dinner feeling very flat. I mean, we’ve all been through tough break ups, but saying that on a date is a bit off, no? Or maybe I’m overreacting here?

Blimey you shouldn’t be feeling a bit of a nutter as a result of all this - definitely a case of you’ve just escaped from the clutches of dating a nutter more like.

MMM when I was very young a cousin of my cousins took me out. He was 3 years older than me. My aunt used to say he was the scapegoat in his family and his brother was the golden child. He took me out very keenly, was upset about sth that happened before he picked me up, against my better judgement I went out with him, and was subjected to two hours of guy staring into his whisky and ice ignoring me almost completely, not even bothering to answer me when I spoke to him. I did the psychologist act and even made him laugh. In the end he got cross because I rejected him and sent me to hell. They do not play psychologist back, are not remotely interested in what is going on with you, he never asked why. That was my answer. Felt like it was my fault for years. Sulkers, this one seemed really nice...ha.