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Help 6 year old walked in on an intimate moment

101 replies

Magic32019 · 12/07/2019 07:06

So I'm 19 weeks pregnant and finding sex a painful experience currently so his morning to help my husband out we were let's say rubbing him sweetly whilst i whispered naughty things in his ear and our 6 year old daughter had walked in unbeknown to us as soon as I saw her I covered him and asked her to leave.
I feel awful I don't know how much she saw I spoken to her gently and said for our privacy can she knock as sometimes we have special cuddles as we love each other very much and that she wasn't in trouble. But I feel horrified she may have seen my husband with an erection 😩😩 she is my eldest so this is new territory for us how do you deal with this situation?

OP posts:
LuckyLou7 · 12/07/2019 07:10

Get a lock for your bedroom door.
She probably won't realise what she walked in on until she is sexually active herself, so I wouldn't worry too much about that.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 12/07/2019 07:20

As PP said -you need a lock on your bedroom door

Original poster
Magic32019 · 12/07/2019 07:22

Hi thanks for reply the annoying thing is I've been pestering my husband for a lock on the door with him promising it will get done but is yet too! Maybe this will prompt him now 😔

OP posts:
SquirellTamer · 12/07/2019 07:53

You definitely need a lock. We have had a lock on our door since our kids were mobile.

Enclume · 12/07/2019 08:30

If your kid ignores it, she probably doesn't understand what she saw.

If she starts sniggering and calling you Handy Mandy, she probably does.

Rainbowknickers · 12/07/2019 08:49

I walked in on my parents hard at it when I was about her age
I didn’t understand it at all
Now I’m 41 it’s just a vague memory
I promise she won’t remember it because it’s a one off for her but do get a lock on your door!

Pinktinker · 12/07/2019 08:55

Agreed with lock on the door. My DD walked in on DH and I once too. She thought we were wrestling Grin.

Original poster
Magic32019 · 12/07/2019 09:09

Lol to the wrestling 🤼‍♂️ my husband is under strict instructions that the door is to be sorted this weekend it's just so embarrassing 😳weirdly my daughter was fine around her dad this morning but sheepish around me 😔 family life is all about learning I suppose totally lesson learnt x

OP posts:
Myheartbelongsto · 12/07/2019 11:43

rubbing him sweetly.......i literally just put my toast back on the plate and there it's going to stay.

FuriousVexation · 12/07/2019 11:48

Why are we being so weird about this?

Sex is a happy, loving, natural part of an adult relationship. Why not just tell her that? She's 6 and you have one on the way so surely you've already told her how conception works?

Summertimeatthebeach · 12/07/2019 11:50

Ime having a locked bedroom door makes for a better sex life!

AnyFucker · 12/07/2019 11:53

Does giving a hand job get you pregnant ? Grin

recall · 12/07/2019 11:53

My daughter found handcuffs on our bed, and brought it up with my mum over the dinner table 😱

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 12/07/2019 11:57

Sex is a happy, loving, natural part of an adult relationship

I agree.. but a line in the OP..
"I'm 19 weeks pregnant and finding sex a painful experience currently so his morning to help my husband out"

Makes me wonder.
Was OP horny but unable or was her OH badgering, claiming he needs it, emotionally manipulating op?

Men do not need orgasms. Men do not need helping out. Men will say they do, they don't.

Op was in pain, they're daughter was up and about, their door was open etc. It hardly sounds mutually enjoyable and relaxing.

Redglitter · 12/07/2019 12:28

Op was in pain

No she said sex is painful she didnt say she was in pain this morning

TellItLikeItReallyIs · 12/07/2019 12:56

we were let's say rubbing him sweetly whilst i whispered naughty things in his ear

Rubbing him sweetly? Let's say?

If it's possible to die cringing I maybe about to! I've read some twee cringing making stuff on here but that wins.

You were masturbating him with your hand. Not hard is it? Grin Pun very much intended.

SkintAsASkintThing · 12/07/2019 15:11

'Rubbing him sweetly' Grin

Just popping on to let you know my face just ate itself. Bloody hell 😂😂😂

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 12/07/2019 15:16

Rubbing him sweetly? 😂

Wanking him off?

Get a lock or wait to rub him sweetly til your DD's asleep.

Yellowweatherwarning · 12/07/2019 15:17

Who thinks we should ask dh's /dp's later if they want rubbing sweetly? Those who guess right can have A WANK!

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 12/07/2019 15:21

Rubbing him sweetly with my song.
Rubbing him sweetly. With my song.

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 12/07/2019 15:27

@unlimiteddilutingjuice OMFG!!!! I just about to post that! Grin can't get it out of my head!

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 12/07/2019 15:28

GrinGrinGrin

NomDeQwerty · 12/07/2019 15:32

Rub it sweetly and you'll still be at it by teatime. Hmm
It needs a nice firm grip then get on with your day. 🤣

IntoValhalla · 12/07/2019 15:34

I think you handled it exactly as I would have.
You didn’t lie to her, but you didn’t go into the gory details either. If she’s not asked or mentioned it again then I’d just leave it....and get a lock for your door Blush

serenadoundy · 12/07/2019 15:38

Makes me wonder.
Was OP horny but unable or was her OH badgering, claiming he needs it, emotionally manipulating op?

Men do not need orgasms. Men do not need helping out. Men will say they do, they don't.

Op was in pain, they're daughter was up and about, their door was open etc. It hardly sounds mutually enjoyable and relaxing.

Really? Christ sake you have some issues if that's what you took from the OP Confused

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