20 year Age gap

[Emsie11]

Hi all I’ve recently met a guy who’s lovely and treats me so well but can a 20 year age gap work?

[corythatwas]

I think it can work well if both partners are very flexible and both willing to give their best. 17 years between IL's and FIL who was the older was mildly crippled from his teens. But he was a very game person, cheerfully became the house-husband after retirement and learnt all the skills needed (we're talking a man born in 1909 here), and was happy to travel abroad until his mid-80s. MIL was the kind of person who can extract fun out of the small everyday things; in fact, they both were. When they could no longer travel they invited the neighbours for drinks. She was also a very strong person who was unlikely to be dominated by him (not that he tried). She became ill (with cancer) before he did, but recovered; he died after a more brief illness.

[Emsie11]

No I don’t think so

[Emsie11]

Sorry ignore last comment no option to delete x

[IcedPurple]

Men my age are mainly going for women 15-20 years younger. It's not ao much low self esteem as trying to be realistic.

Actually, I'd say it's the men in their 40s or 50s trying to date women 15 years younger who need to be realistic. They might 'go for' such women, but the women will very rarely go for them.