Friendship or emotional affair?

[VioletValentine]

For context, I have been in my current job for less than a year and have struck up a friendship with a married colleague. I am single, if that's important. Nothing untoward has happened between us, but it feels like the relationship is intensifying somewhat in terms of the things he is choosing to share with me.

My head is starting to swim and I would really appreciate some advice about how to identify when a friendship crosses the line and becomes an emotional affair. I need to crystallise my thoughts. I don't want to find myself in this situation and am worried I could be inadvertently falling head-first into something dangerous. I care about him a great deal.

Mumsnet at its finest again.

Agree with PP who said you are getting responses about people's own issues rather than yours. Calling him a cheater who has lied about having cancer?? Just weird.

And bingo for AF being rude as normal.

I think you need to step away. I am another whose marriage is a mess because of a similar situation. All very innocent at first I asked him to tone it down as it made me feel uncomfortable so all he’s done is hide it and lied every since and every time we argued about it her would turn to her and they would both slag me off. Just be careful is all I would say it is very easy for situations like this to cause problems my husbands friend wasn’t aware he was lying and hiding things from me as it was all innocent

Agree with PP who said you are getting responses about people's own issues rather than yours.

People's experiences you mean...

I could not care less if my husband talked about our marriage to anyone so on this basis alone I wouldn't see your relationship with this colleague as a problem. The issue to me though is that you seem to have feelings for him. For this reason, I would back off if I were you as it could end badly.