Partner going on holiday with ex and kids

[SimoneW86]

Hi, I have been in a relationship with my partner for 2 months. He left his ex to be with me. he has 2 children with his ex. They had previously booked a holiday whilst still together and he has just told me he still intends to go. I feel very uncomfortable with the idea of him going away with his ex. He says it’s just for the kids sake and only going as it was already planned before the split and won’t happen again etc. I just can’t help but feel it’s a little disrespectful going away with your ex whilst you have a new partner. I do trust him and trust nothing will happen as he left her for me so I trust he wants me, but I just feel disrespected. How do I get over this?

What a lucky man.
He'll be shagging his wife while they're away - it's called hysterical bonding, and you'll be insecure and doing the pick me dance when he gets back. You might even enjoy a bit of competition.
Don't kid yourself that your special - a wife and DC's hold a lot more emotional depth than you ever will.

I don't understand why you're worried? The worst thing he'll do is shag her behind your back but you evidently don't think it's an issue/morally wrong as you were happy to be party to it.

So what's the issue?

Just to save me typing this in about three months:

When someone tells you who they are, listen.
Stop reading his messages. It won’t change anything - you don’t trust him, full stop.
He’s been trying to win her round again since about a fortnight after they split.
Do not let him sign any of your
accommodation paperwork or access your finances.
He’s gaslighting you. You know they shagged on holiday.

HTH.

He sounds a right catch. If he had left and was living alone when you got together, fair enough. But it sounds like he only left her because he could go straight to living with you. Not a good start. You're a bit of excitement in his mundane life and he probably expects his wife to want him back. What an ego boost to have women fighting over him! Don't give him the satisfaction, walk away. It's never going to work. And of course they'll sleep together, they're in the same room ffs. The only way they won't is if the ex has more sense.

He's a catch!
He left his wife for you and now he's going on holiday with her and dcs....it' called having his cake and eating it..then rubbing your nose in it for good measure.
He is showing you exactly what he is...a manipulative selfish git!

Well you have had quite a roasting on here. But reading your posts you just don't seem to get it. I think you need to talk to a counsellor to understand how relationships work and the responses of the different roles ie mother, wife, OW, children and the wayward shagger.

@ravenmum in scotland they started on 28th June

What's disrespectful is fucking someone else's husband.
I will never understand women like you, boo fuckin hoo welcome to life with a cheating piece of shit.
Karma is a real bitch. I love her.