Clare's law

[Moofreemum1]

Has anyone done it before? Will it be anon and they won't tell the man that I'm inquiring about?

Anyone?

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Guess I'll have to find out somewhere else

Im not english, but i googled it, and you can too? It seems as if you can do it without the man knowing..

Hello - not had one personally but done many for the clients I work with
No they won't tell the person you are enquiring about but I am confused what you mean by anonymously? To the person or to the police?

They won't tell the person but when I enquired about it they said I needed to put my request in writing, they would assess it and get back to me. Depending on whether they felt it relevant or necessary, they would tell me some information.

Yes!!! I did it last year. I found my nearest police station that deals with it and applied on line with the information they want. I was then invited in to the police station to prove that I was who I was. They also did a background check on me. They then said they will get back to me and if they feel that my suspicions are warranted they will invite me back. A week or so later I had a call from the police and they wanted me in pretty sharpish. I made an appointment and went in the next few days. You will be given a piece of paper that has all the info about the person you are worried about. It is a read only piece of paper with all background arrests etc of the person you are looking at. After I read the piece of paper I spoke further with the policeman who then gave me advise on my next step. They put an alert against my phone numbers just in case I needed to phone them if this man stalked me or caused any problems. This means I go directly to the top of the pile and get urgent help if needed. Background to this is I started dating someone and his ex texted me to say he had a history of stalking and had been arrested several times and had restraining orders out on him already. I was only allowed to use Clares law as I was still in a relationship with him, you can't be given the info if you have already finished the relationship. I blocked him completely out of my life. We had only been dating for a short while and he had started to lose interest (he was actually on to his next victim I found out). I have only had one message from him in the last 12 months. Hope this helps.

The person you are having investigated will not know.

I don't mean anon from police but I mean from the guy. I wouldn't want him knowing I'd searched for this. We have been dating for a month and it's come to light some details about him that I'm unsure of. No threatening behaviour towards me but obviously you never know at the beginning. He has also said a few things which make me wonder has he been in trouble before. I do like him and we get along but I've been in a women's refuge before and don't want to make the same mistakes

He will not find out. However, if your gut is telling you something is wrong it probably is correct. You say you’ve been I a refuge before. Sometimes we subconsciously pick partners that maybe abusive, it maybe a pattern that you have picked up. If you are even thinking about Clare’s law something is already getting your hackles up. Apply to find out more would be my suggestion.

I don't know if I'm just being silly or over sensitive because of the men I tend to attract. What info do the police need?

They won't tell him. You will need to go in and have an interview with a police person, explain why you think you are risk and then they assess whether they'll disclose the information to you.

sadly the fact you have been in an abusive relationship before means that you are likely to be again. These men know how to target people like that (they're very good at it) and we are less good at spotting the red flags/enforcing boundaries.

I've got better with boundaries and normally I wouldn't have questioned these niggling things but I am becoming more aware of red flags. So this is why I want to know if my feelings are right or wrong. Even if there is nothing that shows up I could still be right

Thats good - well done! I'm better too now.

In my case the person I did the search on had already hit me, so I could easily demonstrate risk. I think you'd have to show cause for concern - they weigh up your rights to know (and the risk you are under) against the right of the person to keep this information confidential. So it depends what your grounds for concern are I thin. How concrete they are.

Does anyone know what info is needed?

But in any case, if you have doubts - you should walk away? The things are only on the record if they've been reported before. You have no idea what he's done before. And there's a first time for everything....

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I’ve done one on my current partner. I had absolutely no concerns but have two young children and also foster so I’m not taking any chances. I did tell him as for me his reaction to my saying it would have told me a lot. I phoned 101 and they took my details and his (name, address and dob) and asked me some screening questions. I made it clear what I needed the information for. They phoned me back around three weeks later to say there was nothing to disclose. If there had been something there I’ve no doubt they would of also informed my social worker due to fostering (not an issue to me as he hadn’t met any of the kids by then). Hope that helps. So there don’t need to be any concerns in order for the check to be done.

I've done it and now awaiting. Do you hear back even if there is no disclosure?

Yes you do

Would I be allowed to apply to find out if my ex's new partner has violent/other history? My DC visit regularly and some of what I hear is not OK. I report to school under safeguarding, but who knows how much is really logged.

Sorry...no info for you, but I saw the recreation of this on TV recently.

Clare's dad fought hard for the law.

OP... if you feel uncomfortable with him, why isn't that enough to end it? Even if he has no prior convictions...you're not feeling everything is right.

Because I don't know if I'm being silly and I'm just being over alert. Some stuff I've heard is from his past and I don't know how long ago. It is non violent things I'd be ok if it was in the past but worried if it still happened

What if the person you want to do the search on is a police officer?

I know that they are not allowed to tell fellow officers information like this about themselves (e.g. they can’t tell another officer if someone has requested a search on them or who has requested it)...but do they actually stick to this? I’m assuming it’s a sackable offence but I have no idea how strictly police adhere to confidentiality when it’s about each other. I’ve known some very dodgy police officers who I can’t imagine keeping quiet if the search was about a mate.