Firstly he’s acting very strange!
What debts does he have and how did he get them if not registered at an address?
He’s not a dad! 1/2 nights is pathetic and his gifting little bits is intended to keep you quiet.
HMRC can take you to court for fraud. 12K???
How can you pay this back!
I feel for you as you want so badly to keep the idea of a family unit together due to your last relationship. However he’s useless. 30K and in army accommodation???? Seriously?
I feel for you yet I feel angered that you are so desperate to create a fairy tale that isn’t even that that you are risking a prison sentence and have no money from him to help with his and your child that you made!
It’s also annoying that you have committed fraud that he seems fine with, that comes from taxpayers money and so many people need extra help and this sort of fraud makes people very angry and want help reduced and become more conservative when the few take the poss out of a system to help those in need that genuinely need the help. The result is that major cuts in public funding that really fucks the desperate over.
You on your own would count as one that needed the help genuinely and from what little he’s contributing I can see you need it but from a tax payer or HMRC perspective with him being a partner and listed at your address he is supposed to be contributing to half or whatever is fit.
I actually think he should be chased for the 12K but unfortunately it’s your name on the claim and you ticked the box saying all was accurate so unfortunately legally it’s you they will be after.
The sad thing is that you will possibly lose your house as you said you had a mortgage so I’m assuming it’s in your name.
The very thing that keeps a roof over your children’s heads and provides stability, the reason you didn’t go into army accommodation was the fear of moving every couple of years. Well this is looking very likely unless you don’t act now. I’m not sure how you can appeal. Maybe you need to get confirmation of his army accommodation and his supervisor to give evidence that his residence is with them. I’m not sure if this is still acceptable.
But there will
Likely be legal cost that if the supervisor of partner can help or direct you with help, even docking his wages??? I don’t know.
I’m in shock as the thing you are trying to create, you have also destroyed or at least he has but with you knowingly in a weird way.
Does he have another family? Gabbling issues?
What are his debts?
How much does he pay out?
6 years together and a child together, seeing 1/2 days a week? You hardly know him or his life, or finances!
Really odd situation and not a family life that you seem to dream about with mummy and daddy at school gates etc.
I know army life is a different ball ground but surely you work the logistics before a child is in the picture as no way would I and many have a dad that walks in 1/2 days a week. I would love in barracks if I chose to have a child with a soldier. Even if they are away you have a community and support in the barracks whether wanted or not that help in raising and supporting the wives and children when OH are away.
I can’t see how the dream of mummy and daddy at school gates and other times could ever have been if this was the structure of the relationship in the first place.
Not many mummy and daddy’s are at school gates as many people have to work or if lucky then the father works so only mummy or vice versa is at the gates.
Just don’t get the fairy tale.
The more I go on as I do ramble on a lot, it makes me angry
I do feel for you and your children but I feel he’s a dick and that is a known but you have been compliant in this and will lead to the debt around you and your children for years to come and quite possibly the loss of the stability that you so wanted for your children when the house is taken.
I honestly hope it isn’t but you have lost the tax credits and then he’s not contributing, you’re struggling already and then you have to at present pay back the debt and god knows what repayment plan they put in place and also if they want to take you to court.