I fell pregnant at the end of 2018 just before I turned 21. I refused to have an abortion and the father walked out on me after that. I’ve dealt with all this in my stride, completed my final year at university and have received all the support from my family. I’m lucky enough to live in a nice big family home in a nice area and plan on working as soon as I’m ready because I know this is my responsibility and choice. As the pregnancy is coming to an end my family and friends are starting to get really excited, as am I, yet my borther is still giving me a hard time, particularly when no one else is around. His reaction to me finding out I was pregnant was by far the worse out of all of my family and friends. Though people were shocked, they respected my decision and came around. My brother refused to talk to me for days. He said he was booking a holiday when the baby was due so he wouldn’t have to see ‘it’ and that he would find a way to move out. I had asked the people who knew not to put anything on social media or gossip about it, purely because I am fiercely private and wanted the father to have space from the situation hoping he maybe would eventually come around. My brother then proceeded to tell all of his friends, even the personal details about the situation with the father etc, and would then send me messages of people asking him and his friends about it and tell me I can’t complain about gossip because I chose it. He would refer to the baby things such as ‘it’ or ‘the kid’ and would tell people I was an ‘idiot’ and ‘got myself pregnant.’ I take full responsibility for having unprotected sex but it still stung as I hadn’t realised my medicine had effected my birth control and he didn’t seem to blame the person who got me pregnant at all. I managed to get some distance because I shortly went back to uni and will be graduating at exactly 9 months in July with a 2:1. There was an optimistic vibe in uni and that’s where I started having scans and planning baby names etc with my housemates. In April I had a massive gender reveal party where people travelled all the way from uni and loads of my friends and family came, including my brother who had made it clear he wanted it to be a boy and wore blue. When it was revealed I was expecting a girl, he had a very OTT and dismayed reaction and was the only one to do so. At first I didn’t think much of it but I soon resented him for refusing to call the baby anything other than ‘it’ despite her now having a gender and a name. When we started buying stuff for the baby his behaviour grew worse. My auntie very generously bought a very nice and expensive pram which I’m so lucky to own. When my brother saw it he said I was spoilt and that he deserved something worth that much too. After seeing the nursery for the first time he pretended to punch the Moses basket which made my mum furious. When we came back with loads of stuff we had bought he waited until our mum had left the room and told me really insensitive things like he didn’t blame the father for walking out on me and that I should have an abortion because he wanted it which drove me to tears as I was now heavily pregnant and had never wanted an abortion. He would also say that I wouldn’t even look after the baby and my parents would. He told me I would have to start dating after giving birth for financial support. I have worked since I was 16 and worked for as long as I could in between uni while pregnant while he refuses to even apply for summer jobs so just find his views unbearable. When my parents went away he told me he would leave any girl he got pregnant because he wouldn’t want it but also wouldn’t be stupid enough to get into that situtation, in front of his girlfriend, and that it’s double standards that women get to choose whether to keep the baby or not. When he sees me getting upset he starts smirking and laughing - thought he won’t dare say this in front of other people showing him to be the bully he is. His sexist views disgust me and makes me worry for how he will treat my daughter. He said he’d make his girlfriend have an abortion which upset her greatly and in the end I had to leave the room. He has one more year left in uni so won’t be around the baby much but the thought of having to live with him with a baby makes me sick. We’ve never had the typical sibling, let alone twin, bond but now it feels like he’s bullying me because he’s jealous of the attention but there’s no way to talk him out of things. I don’t know why he has any reason to be jealous of me when he’s always been really academically gifted and got into all the top universities and won awards at schools etc, and has had a long term girlfriend. I’ve always had to work really hard and never done quite as well as him and an a survivor of abuse and have had a few failed relationships, including the one with the father who I don’t even mention. I just don’t know what to do and would at least like some way of coping because I know my mum would never make him leave. She hates the way he talks about the baby and me but it doesn’t stop him. I really just want to cut him from life at this point, the way he used to treat me when we were younger resulted in me having to go to a different school. He let his friends smash up my bedroom when I was out and doesn’t stop them walking into my room and invading my privacy - which led to them all being banned. My friends hate him and his friends which shows its not just a sibling rivalry. I don’t want to feel sorry for myself because I’m really excited about the baby and knew there would be discrimination, it’s just something in starting to get sick of and want to be as relaxed and as happy as I can be for the remainder of my pregnancy. Thank you.