I fancy the postie!

[Sophie89101]

Hello!

So I'm new to mumsnet. Long time lurker. I'm a 30yo single mum with two daughters.

I'll get straight to it. I order quite a lot of things online so the postie knocks on my door quite often. It's only been recently however that we started talking. Nothing much, just a bit of small talk and maybe light flirting? Hard to tell!

Today was lovely. He knocked this morning and as I answered my little yorkie ran out and he ran after her, picked her up and brought her back. Seems silly but a little gesture like that really meant a lot!

Anyway, I'm hopeless at taking initiative with these sorts of things. I have no idea if he's single and don't really know how to go about finding out?

Thank you!

Is he wearing a ring?

Yes but not a wedding ring

Is the ring on his wedding finger..? If not, next time you see him ask him, did you have a nice weekend? Or, any plans this weekend? Something generic. That'll give you an idea if if he's available.

I wonder if you live near me. EVERYONE fancies our postie.

No it's not on his wedding finger. Good suggestions loulou thank you x

Ha, maybe I do! He's not what I'd call conventionally attractive. He has quite a fit physique though! Broad shoulders. Strong looking. I'm enjoying seeing him in his shorts haha

I've got some things due monday. I'll try and muster up the courage to ask him a few questions!

Just try to chat for longer. I think asking someone whether they have kids is a fairly safe way of starting to suss out their circumstances. Good luck. Have fun.

Yep, i second that asking about kids is a shortcut to knowing more about someone's circs (and can be thrown lightly into conversation about weekend plans etc) so I would suggest that.

Totally get it though. I had a GORGEOUS delivery guy this week. Looked like a big viking warrior but he doubled back at the end of the day as I was out when he called originally and he didn't like the idea of my parcel (a plant) sitting in the hot depot all weekend. Really wish I'd made some kind of a move, not sure what!

Well I saw him this morning with my parcels as expected. However, I lied and said the parcels were things for my daughters, to get on the topic (quite proud of how sneaky I was there tbh), then casually asked him if he had kids. He doesn't. I was feeling brave and got onto topic of the weekend past and asked if he'd been up to anything. He hadn't got up to much. Said he was just tired from working a 6 day week so rested sunday.

I try and keep in mind that he must be busy so never want to stop him for too long, so we ended it there.

I just don't know how to find out whether he's single or not. His replies don't suggest he has a partner but I can't tell for sure.

Ah! If you smile nicely he might knock twice, like Jack Nicholson.

Invite him in for a bacon sandwich. That will do the trick . Men never say no to food!

You can offer him a drink on a hot day (or use of a loo). If you need a conversation starter x

Yes and if he wees on the toilet seat you'll know for sure that he's single!

Hahaha thanks for the suggestions!

Offering him in for a drink might be a good idea. "Oh, you look hot, come in and have a lemonade!"

I fancy my postie! He gets to see me at my worst, so I think that means we’re practically married.

I'm too busy trying to stop my yorkie from attacking the delivery guys to pay notice to what they look like haha

No luck today. It was a different postie! Must be his day off...

I have something due tomorrow, and it'll be hot I imagine so I might be brave and offer him in for a drink.

Gah!

My DP is a postie. As far as I can tell he’s also a dog rescuing service and an OAP welfare checking service, if his Christmas tips are anything to go by he’s quite popular too. Ask him OP 😊

When your expecting the parcels to be delivered, make yourself unavailable. But leave a note on the door saying something along the lines of - any deliveries please call or text 0758384748 (whatever your number is) ask him just to leave it and that you'll be home shortly to pick it up! That way you have his phone number and should be able to find him on social media via that and determine if he's single / family etc - or text him after like - hey! thanks so much for doing that for me earlier, it's just been one of those days! X and judge how it goes from there... 😂 or is that too stalkerish?

I saw him this morning and went for it! I asked him if he wanted to come in for a drink as it was hot out. He acted a bit surprised, bless him, but to my surprise he actually said yes! He said he really appreciated it, which was nice, but he only went and asked me if my husband was at work! Ha! I told him I'm separated, never married. Some more small talk and I showed him out.

It doesn't end there though! I went back to my lounge to find one of those red 'something for you' cards on my table. It has his mobile no on it!!

Bloody hell what do I do now?! Haha

OMG girlfriend!!!1!

I know!!!

I have no idea what to text him!

Eeek! You text it of course, then let us know who said what and how it's going!

Ps. my friend fancied the Postie and now he lives with her and they have a 2 year old...

You message him!! Maybe say you're really glad he left his number, and enjoyed chatting to him today?

I shouldn't have left it this long, I know!

Anyway I hust this second texted him saying i enjoyed the chat. Couldn't think of anything else to say.

I hope I haven't left it too long!

Definitely text him ! Sounds like a good catch!