Guy I'm seeing going off me?

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I'm probably being paranoid but today he hasn't really spoken much to me.
Yesterday we spoke a lot and it just was fun conversation etc
He text me this morning saying he didn't feel well,I replied and he text back 3 hours later saying he had to phone in sick as he was vomiting and felt awful.
Since then we've only exchanged a few texts.
I text him about a hour ago saying I was shattered and couldn't wait for bed.
He replied saying he had been in bed most of the day,then nothing else.
No asking about my day etc
Do you think I should ask what's going on?
Or maybe just cos he is sick and can't be bothered to talk?
But he has been on Facebook.

I text him about a hour ago saying I was shattered and couldn't wait for bed.

^^ perhaps if you had of asked him how he’s feeling? Poor guy is clearly unwell but it seems you want him to sympathise with you being tired?

If he was genuinely ill he wouldn’t be thinking about how your day was. Did you ask about him?

@LuluBellaBlue earlier today I asked if he needed anything and told him to drink plenty of fluids and rest.

I would suggest leaving him alone when he is not feeling well, sometimes when I'm feeling sick I don't want to speak to people but I might scroll on Instagram or whatever to pass the time.

Give him some space and wish him a speedy recovery.....

Well you did then but I wouldn’t be offended if he didn’t pay you much attention under the circumstances.

You come across as being needy and self centred.
He has said he is not feeling well and he has exchanged a few texts with you. Are you stalking him on Facebook?

He is ill. Are you normally like this?

If I was ill and dp thought I was going off him because I didnt text much and didnt ask how his days was, when I had spent the morning vomiting, I would tell him to get grip.

What he is doing is totally normal. He is ill and you are turning it into a pity party for one.

Do you have some background that would explain why you feel like this? When th reason he isnt in touch much is obvious?

Seriously? He's puking up his guts and you're worried that he's gone off you because he didn't text during it? What are you, twelve?

@VixenSixen yeah he hasn't been on WhatsApp a lot.
Normally he is very active and chatty.
He's not really one to phone in sick from work so must be feeling pretty rubbish.

Give him a break he's not well.
If he's been vomiting etc he probably just wants a rest.
Give him some space today.

I know I'm probably being ridiculous.
My last relationship was with a compulsive liar /cheat and it's made me a little bit neurotic.

You sound v hard work.

Yes, you are being ridiculous.
He's ill. Leave the poor guy alone.
You are faaaaaaaasar too needy and self obsessed.

Jesus stop being so needy. The poor man is sick. I wouldn’t be surprised if he goes off you after today tbh

He's poorly, give him a break man.

Hes been vomiting and you told him about how YOU were tired, and how YOU couldn't wait for bed. You didn't think about him at all, from what you said, you were only fishing for texts from him.

Ouch. This was painful to read. The poor guy has been horribly ill all day and it's just ME ME ME from you. I wouldn't be surprised if he runs a mile.

Wow - really hope he runs away. You're going to be a nightmare!

Ita not neurotic. Its selfish.

Sometimes bad relationships can make us a bit like that.

If its impacting you this much, that you cant stop yourself from turning his illness into 'how is it impacting ME?' And 'but what about ME?'

You need some outside support

yeah he hasn't been on WhatsApp a lot

You've been checking?

Yes, you're stalking him.

I'd be going off you too

Needy. Com

He's ill and youre being very needy and self centred. Let him get better without bothering him constantly.

you've been in touch on and off all day; texts; call 3 hours later; more texts. In between you check him on WhatsApp and Facebook and start a MN thread? That's suffocating. You should consider recovering on your own after your previous bad experience. It's not new bloke's job to fix you. He's allowed to just date someone because it's fun....

Comments are a bit brutal!

Personally I think self-awareness is everything. OP you do sound a bit needy and a bit neurotic but that's ok, it's fine as long as you're aware. Once you're aware you can do a mental self-assessment everytime you come across one these scenarios, take a breath, try to relax and get on with your day/do something calming/shake yourself out of it/offer support instead of demanding it. Lack of self awareness is a problem.

Clearly you are aware that it might be you misreading things here hence your posts.

Back off, offer sympathy, expect nothing in return and do something nice for yourself in the meantime.

On the tiny chance it turns out it was all a bollocks ploy to end things, you brutally and coldly cut him off without further explanation.

Until/if such an unfortunate scenario occurs, just chill