Guy I'm seeing going off me?

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I'm probably being paranoid but today he hasn't really spoken much to me.
Yesterday we spoke a lot and it just was fun conversation etc
He text me this morning saying he didn't feel well,I replied and he text back 3 hours later saying he had to phone in sick as he was vomiting and felt awful.
Since then we've only exchanged a few texts.
I text him about a hour ago saying I was shattered and couldn't wait for bed.
He replied saying he had been in bed most of the day,then nothing else.
No asking about my day etc
Do you think I should ask what's going on?
Or maybe just cos he is sick and can't be bothered to talk?
But he has been on Facebook.

In all honesty, I'd be going off you too. It's not all about you...leave the man alone.

Oh me too. I’ve only read a few of your post and I know I’m not keen. You seem intense and needful.

The man has called in sick. Stop making it all about you.

Vomiting bugs are horrendous
My son has one as is now wife was talking to him a few years ago and he had to run to loo with her getting annoyed that he was not talking to her ...
Give him benefit of the doubt for now
My hubby goes very quiet when he’s not well

Sorry I meant they were on the phone to each other and my son had to run suddenly to the loo to be sick ..

My logic is he has been on and off WhatsApp all night
If you like someone you would be dropping them a message.
Last night he was texting for 5 hours
Tonight zero
It's total mind games

It’s not mind games! He’s ill!!!!!! Stop checking his WhatsApp, it’s weird stalker type behaviour. It doesn’t sound to me like you’re secure enough in yourself to be in a healthy relationship. You will drive him away behaving like this and it’s really unhealthy for you. I know you’re worried but you’re coming across really self centred and really needy. Just leave the guy alone and get on with your life. I’m sure he’ll be in touch when he’s feeling better

He's not going off you, just feels sick. Unless there was stuff before this that has put the doubt in your mind?

OP, please - are you even reading all these replies? Do you think he got ill on purpose just to mess with your head?

It's as I said before in a lengthy post which you have apparently ignored. He probably feels too crap to be bothered with getting into a back and forth conversation, but is OK to mindlessly look at his phone. But it almost sounds like you WANT him to be going off you so you can be proved right.

It's your mind playing games with your. Not him.

Do yourself a favour and change your WhatsApp settings so you can't see when he's online.

You are being irrational.

How old are you, how long have you been seeing each other, and how often?

op note from an old fart, this stuff puts people off. Just do your own thing if he's not in touch.

It's not mind games...it's you. WhatsApp is telling me my DH is online now...he's been snoring beside me for nearly 2 hours...stop stalking.

You sound exhausting and self-serving!!

It's all me, me, me.

He's sick FFS! Ask him how he is. Ask does he need anything? Ask if there is anything you can do. Send him sick memes to cheer him up. Let him rest. It's not about you!!

Oh come on, this has to be a wind up

Poor bloke!

Lord you sound like hard work OP- see how he is tomorrow and chill the hell out

If this is not a wind up then you really need to take a step back.
Texting for 5 hours sounds very teenaged and very intense and while he may have been up for that last night, no one can sustain that and actually live their life!

You run the risk of making him feel utterly suffocated and pushing him away.
Leave him alone for the rest of the night then text, once, in the morning to say you hope he is feeling better and to let you know if he needs anything. Make sure not to make it all about you and not to try to create a conversation if he is not making the effort to do so as he is likely still ill.

IF he is going off you then you will soon know but if he isn't then you are currently risking coming across as neurotic and selfish and are likely to put him off.

Honeyroar: yep.

I agree this starting to sound like a wind up now. Every poster has given you the same advice but you're still pushing. Either you're doing it on purpose to be goady or you actually are in need of help.

I'm really not needy at all
I just like some communication with the person I'm seeing
I'm not going to text tonight
I'm going to wait till tomorrow now

You don’t just like ‘some communication’ - you want constant attention.

FFS is all

To the point where if you suspect he might have had ‘some communication’ with anyone else, you’re turning into a slight against you!

Fucking wake up.

Why do you need more communication, he said he's ill. Just ask how he is, offer to help and if he declines let him rest. It will drive him away op.

“My logic is, he’s been on and off WhatsApp all night.”

So fucking what? He’s allowed to go on WhatsApp without contacting you first.
I know that seems incredible to you...but he has a life and interests beyond you and it doesn’t mean anything untoward.
Wow.

I'm going to disagree with most posters. Trust your gut.

This happened with me. The guy was on and off watsapp all night. Turns out he wasn't even ill.