Guy I'm seeing going off me?

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I'm probably being paranoid but today he hasn't really spoken much to me.
Yesterday we spoke a lot and it just was fun conversation etc
He text me this morning saying he didn't feel well,I replied and he text back 3 hours later saying he had to phone in sick as he was vomiting and felt awful.
Since then we've only exchanged a few texts.
I text him about a hour ago saying I was shattered and couldn't wait for bed.
He replied saying he had been in bed most of the day,then nothing else.
No asking about my day etc
Do you think I should ask what's going on?
Or maybe just cos he is sick and can't be bothered to talk?
But he has been on Facebook.

Maybe it’s so.
I don’t know...I could be out of touch with how people communicate now. I wouldn’t go into a new relationship expecting daily and numerous messages via social media. Maybe that’s what’s normal now.
I’d find the pressure stifling. Maybe I’m a fogey but I’d hate to keep tabs or be tracked because someone didn’t message for 5 hours.
It’s crazy.

Although I am undoubtedly out of date in communication norms these days, I find it unlikely people have changed that much and that they no longer feel stifled by being required to constantly be in contact with someone.

Play it cool op
Nowt worse than all that paranoid nonsense
The man was ill and probably wanted peace to sleep. If he likes you he likes you, nothing will affect that except needy, self conscious behaviour when he no doubt wanted you to be there for him and ask if he needed anything or you saying you’ll let him rest and catch up when he’s feeling better...

It’s hard, don’t fall into the trap of constantly texting, expecting him to text men just don’t do that.

OP I'm sorry to break the news but i 100% think he has gone off you. On and off whatsapp but not communicating with you at all for hours??? Its just plain rude and bordering on abusive. My partner would never do that - he even managed to text me hourly when he was in that coma one time. He's definitely got another woman 100%. Using that "oh im ill" nonsense... Yeah right like that's not been used by anyone before. I strongly suspect he has been chatting to another woman and you also are so right to suspect something - you do sound like a highly intuitive and emotionally intelligent person in your posts.. My genuine advice would be to dump him...do it OP before you set yourself up for more heartbreak further down the line - let us know when you have done it...please God...

Holy shit. Hopefully he wises up to the fact you're needy and controlling.

HE IS SICK.

Lol at AskEvans.

Wondering how one sends hourly text whilst in a coma.....

Anyhow, op I mean this nicely, please don't make this guy suffer for the behaviour of your precious partner. Yes you were treated very badly and it is still affecting you but this current guy has given you no indication that he is anything but genuine.

Let him recover, let him know you're there should he need you but back off a bit.
Don't spoil what could potentially be a brilliant relationship. Your ex wins that way.

Sorry typo- clearly not a precious partner-PREVIOUS partner.

"It just makes me sad that he can go hours without any communication with me."

This is worrying. You should be able to happily go a good few days without speaking to each other at times.

You sound full on and intense op.

Zoflorabore It's called sarcasm.

Askevans how does one text hourly when in a coma?! 🤨

Op you really don't seem stable.
Even if he is dropping messages to other people that doesn't matter.how long have you been together?

Ineedtobehappy As I pointed out to Zoflora, it's called sarcasm

I don't think stalking him but "playing it cool" is the answer. I think sorting yourself out and leaving the poor bloke alone is the answer. It's no more fairer on men to treat them like this than it is on women. "Red flags"?????

*more fair...

I got a tummy bug one time when I was early days dating with a guy. I told him I was sick and after a solid twelve hours throwing up and a fever I finally fell into a deep blissful sleep.

Sometime later I was woken up by my phone ringing. It was him wondering why I hadn't answered his messages.

I dumped him as soon as I was lucid.

How long have you been together OP?

Wow! Leave the poor bloke alone, he's told you he's ill