If someone messaged to say your DH was cheating

[GummyGoddess]

What questions would you ask for 'proof'?

Was going to nc but I cannot be arsed.

If he is dealing with her as a mental health professional, should she even have access to his number to be able to message him??

And surely he should have reported her inappropriate messages to his superior by now? To protect himself and her. Code of ethics and all that.

It wasn't a message in my case, but an anonymous phone call. Wish I knew who it was, as I would like to thank him. I confronted XH by email (he was working abroad) and he confirmed it. I told him not to come back a few days later. Horrific at the time, but I am so much happier and healthier without him.

How would she know who you are?

And no, as I’ve said a few posts back, doctors, CPNs, care coordinators all have tablets or computers. I’ve never seen so much as a postit or a biro.

Sounds pretty much like he can't report her to anyone, she has him over a barrel, due to his carrying around her 'notes'

This situation stinks to high heaven.

Is he involved in her treatment? Or an office staff at the facility? How does he have access to her records?

He has seriously violated confidentiality laws and ethics, as it is highly doubtful that she gave her explicit consent for him to take her records out of the facility or to show them to you. She would have a cause of action and he would be terminated.

They may not be her records at all. Did you just see a letterhead or did you actually view her name in the documents?

If this is all her fantasy, how does she know about the mark on his body, the dates, and the other OW whom you said she wouldn’t know about?

Thank you for your concern. I am fine. Let's just say that although the line 'don't listen to her, she's crazy' is a lie 99.99% of the time, 0.01% of the time it's the truth. I have evidence, I don't want to post what it is because that's not fair on someone who is genuinely sick.

I shall be leaving this thread now as I can't answer anything else and I also know that people will not believe the concrete evidence I have seen and continually suggest he is lying.

Thank you for the support.

Oh gosh op. Well if that’s the case then I am glad. All the best and good luck.

See you in a few months / years (with a name change of course) positing a similar situation.

This happened to me today as well. Email from a third party telling me dh has been cheating. It has turned out to be true.

This is utter BS.

She may indeed have a severe mental illness, but there is no denying that she knew about the mark on his body and other pertinent information.

Op why would he be sending his patient selfies ??? be rational here don’t be gaslighted