Dating...but no sex?!

[jaffa678]

I’ve changed my name for this. So I’ve been dating a guy for approx 7 weeks and we’ve met up around 10 times. He’s lovely, very good looking , charming, seems very interested in me, we have some lovely conversations and There’s a massive spark between us when we’re together.

Ok, so because of previous relationship break downs I’m currently back at home with my parents and so is he. It’s a temporary situation for us both.

However, I feel really frustrated haha! After 10dates we’ve only kissed, nothing more! He doesn’t talk about it! Or ever mention it. It’s just we have a really great date and then kiss bye and that’s it!! I have not dtd now since December !! And it’s driving me insane haha! I’m quite a quiet person so I would never dream of bringing it up to him. He mentioned about us going away in august! But that’s forever! And even then he was like it would be great to spend some time together lots of cuddles! Haha I feel like I am the one with the testosterone here!! What’s going on??!!

@Flyingkites123 We had talked extensively about it online beforehand. We planned it all in great detail 😁. It was our first date!

6 months later and going strong.

Seeing as neither of you have your own places dont you do any sexting at night ?? I'm 52 & divorced for 9 years & any dating I've been doing has included quite a bit if sexting inbetween dates. I cant comprehend being that far into a relationship & not discussing my sexual desires & seeing if my new partner agrees/matches up. No wonder why so many women on here are having crap sex. You need to talk about it.

If the chemistry is right, I have never been adverse to sex on a first date. Some may criticise, but it does avoid these shenanigans.

OP, you have needs, look him in the eyes and say “would you like to make love to me?”.

OMG forget the talking!

When you start kissing like you do, kiss his neck and whisper he tastes delicious, kiss his chest and tell him how nice he smells, go back to the lips and rub his chest with your hands and start to unbutton his shirt.

If he can't figure it out by then, it's hopeless!

@RantyAnty haha I love your post!! Imagine if he couldn’t figure it out after that 😂🤣

I’m messaging him now I’m putting it out there tonight I’m just going to ask him and hope I’m not barefaced red when we next meet face to face.

So...... What was the outcome 😆

Little update ladies!! We’ve booked a night away next weekend 😀
@FloorLamp I asked him if he has ever thought about it, and he messaged back saying of course he has, he’s being a gentleman and doesn’t want to rush it but said he thinks it will be amazing. So we’ve got a night away!!
Any tips 😉 feel like I need to go underwear shopping pronto!!

Any tips 😉 feel like I need to go underwear shopping pronto!!

Boux Avenue is your friend!😂 Gorgeous underwear.

Congrats on asking him Jaffa that's exciting.
Just enjoy each other and don't put too much pressure on it being great the first time together.

I had one of those talks once. It turned out I was dating the only practising Catholic in England...

@StCharlotte 😂😂 that is funny, what happened?
@spritesobright thank you I know the first time has got to be a little awkward hasent it

I bet he's got a tiny cock

@PurpleGlitter1983 😂😂😂 will keep you posted on that one!

Blimey! I must be a rare breed, I copped off with someone from the pub once (my age, nice and I'd known him years), straight back to his. Longest 1 night stand ever, I never went home! We've been together 21 years and are still very happy (not a lot of sex tbh these days) 😂😂

I bet he's got a tiny cock

Fk, I thought my posts were harsh.

On the tips front, relax and have enough to drink to be nicely tipsy & horny but not enough to be sleepy, uncoordinated and messy (both of you).

Trip to the shops definitely, if you feel great then you will be more confident. He sounds a great catch!

@Moralitym1n1 yeah I was thinking of having a few drinks to feel tipsy, only problem is he wants us to. Have a meal at the hotel, I don’t want to feel bloated and uncomfortable, will have to pick something light.

Having a meal first etc might build anticipation but also builds pressure. I'd hate you to be disappointed, jump him when you check in!

That’s it... I’m going to count how many “I’ve changed my username for this” posts that give so specific info anyone that knows you.... knows it’s you... strangers don’t care why bother changing your username .... I don’t get it I really don’t

@areukiddingme if you’ve got nothing nice / valuable to add why waste your time commenting?

@areukiddingme If you post on MN a lot and don't changed your username....all you have to do is type a username in and every post comes up. That can make you extremely identifiable. That's why people NC. I really don't think op has said anything really that would 'out' her. Really no need for your comment at all.

Op - this is a great update! Keep us all posted :-)

I don’t want to feel bloated and uncomfortable, will have to pick something light.

Definitely.

This habit of having a (giant, three course) 'romantic' meal before sex is mind boggling. Being chock full of food (and probably wind) is not really conducive to sex.

jaffa678

It didn't last, funnily enough, although he did eventually allow me to "de-flower" him before I released him back into the wild

Are you both religious?

I'm never one to jump into things quickly, but my god nothing since December? Alarm bells for me too.

Hope it works out for you OP.

When is the night away OP?