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Not told anyone about me

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onetiredmum · 11/06/2019 14:42

OK. Here I am again.... Eugh!

OK so I've been seeing a nice guy for about 6/7 weeks. And last weekend we were supposed to be spending the weekend together. We spend Friday night together and it's all lovely but he changes his mind and makes plans with his friends instead... Im not invited.

I don't have my children so thought it would be a good weekend for us to 'get aquainted'

Anyway he says he will come round Sunday night instead when my kids are there... Then never turns up!

I ask... 'have you told your friends and family about me at all?'..... No is his answer.

So I message him yesterday asking how he felt about me and I just wanted to know where I stand. He asks to call me later...

I get a message saying he'll call me after his tea and shower..... I then don't hear fr him until this morning saying he's sorry he fell asleep?!

When I say look I'm done.... He tells me he is interested but he's scared of commitment?!

Wtf do I do? I'm a 40yo woman and thought I knew how to deal with this. Any help from anyone would be so good right now x

OP posts:
ravenmum · 14/06/2019 08:21

I wouldn't ask a man how he felt about me after 6 weeks if he was showing up when he said he would, either. But this guy did a no-show on two consecutive weekends. Fair enough in that case to ask if he is still interested. That's not getting invested, it's just wanting to know if you're still actually dating.

If he really is afraid of getting hurt, so pre-emptively rejecting you, before you reject him, then he is not ready to date anyone.

carla1983 · 14/06/2019 13:32

Well done OP

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