I never would’ve thought this of my sister...

[MissKittyBeaudelais]

My older sister is having an affair with a married man. It’s none of my business, I know but I’d never have imagined she could be such a mug. It’s been going on for 18 months. He says his relationship with his wife is more like brother and sister and that whilst they don’t have a married relationship in terms of sex and love, they get on well and do lots of stuff together. He and my sister worked together many years ago and they met up again and started seeing each other.

Thing is, I find it really difficult to talk to her about it, when she wants to discuss stuff or just even says “We’re doing this/that/whatever”. I just think “he’s seeing you when he can fit you in and he’s off to Spain to his holiday home with his wife”. He was leaving his wife this summer but they’ve got a few events planned and he felt he needed to not cause upheaval before those family events. Now, he says he’s can’t leave until his daughter goes to Uni in Sept which is so close to Christmas... etc etc.

I just want my sister to stop this. I haven’t told her so. I feel sorry his his wife/family and of course my sister. I’ve never met him. Sister (obviously) has never met any of his friends etc.

Should I just not say anything? WWYD?

Damn... I guess being a gloating asshole is against guidelines... Be good if this is the start of life unravelling for her. I'd pay to see that shit show.

Must have been a troll after all!

Makes sense. Surely people that stupid don't exist in real life.

I would find it a relief if they were a troll as I just couldn’t understand the mentality. Cheating happens but most people either act remorseful and feel guilty or go the other way and say whilst they know it’s bad their partner is x y z so feel partly justified. This person painted their husband as a Saint but then said she didn’t see anything wrong with cheating on him.

These people do exist though even if rare

Yes I have no doubt they exist. Most wouldn't gloat on a public forum though then ask people not to judge!? Even if they justify it they usually know it's morally wrong therefore aren't often seen posting all the details.

Anyone who does do so as that previous poster and honestly thinks there's nothing wrong with it have deep down psychological issues where they genuinely can't distinguish right from wrong and should be seeking help rather than a root.

They’re both as bad as each other. Things aren’t always as they seem. None of us have any idea what his marriage is like. Maybe they are just staying together for the kids but he and his wife both know it’s over. That happens all the time.