Slip of the tongue or dumpable offence?

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Boyfriend of six weeks made a stupid joke about his ex girlfriend.

For context, we had been talking about past relationships and I asked him about his last relationship, and why it ended.

He replied that it was because the only thing they had in common was great sex but not much else.

Then, the first time we were about to dtd, I asked him to use a condom. He said of course he would but I had nothing to worry about STD wise (I’m on the pill) because he’d got himself tested after his last relationship ended. So I asked him when that was and he said 6 months ago. Then he said “don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten how to do it”!

AIBU to think that these are stupid things to say to a new girlfriend? After his last gaff we never even dtd in the end because I went right out of the mood.

Am I being overly sensitive or is he a bumbling buffoon?

Op you sound like hard work.

Poor bloke

If he's not had sex for six months and it's your first time together then he will have had insecurities, including being a one minute wonder. He could've been a little more tactful, but I see no serious foul here, and I say that as someone very insecure sexually.

I think you're just jealous that he had great sex with his ex girlfriend.

End of.

I said this exact thing (only thing in common was sex) to the guy I'm currently seeing! I didn't really think about how it would make him feel, it was a flippant comment.

If anything - I think it paints him in a better light because he's looking for more than just sex and didn't stay with someone he wasn't suited to?

overly sensitive

It’s a throw away comment you sound like hard work...

#Mycatatetherat, snap. I had a long relationship and to explain why we lasted so long I would also say something about physical attraction. It can blind you or cover up for relationship difficulties as if you connect in the bedroom you assume connection out of the bedroom.

You sound like my ex. "Yes I asked, but why couldn't you lie in a very specific way rather than tell me the truth??? Wahhh you're so insensitive, why can't you anticipate every insecurity I have and then choose the exact words that won't set it off?"

Awful.

Fucking hell,OP. You bombarded him with questions which he had the audacity to answer ?

He should run. Run for the hills.

Blimey op. I think you might struggle to form relationships if you're this hard work with people. This is actually quite unbelievable.

Send him my way, I’ll have him.

You do sound like hard work OP. He’s allowed to have had great sex before he met you OP. You sound insecure & ridiculous. Having had a partner like you I promise all your insecurity crap you’re taking out on him gets old. Fast.

Get a grip.

You are overthinking this massively. I was expecting you to say he'd called out her name in bed or something! I don't even see where the buffoonery lies in all this...

Christ you sound awfully hard work.

It was a lame joke, not anything even vaguely offensive to anybody in the entire world.

And he didn't just announce that he had good sex with his ex, you bloody asked him!