To actually want to praise my Husband

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So, I have been on Mumsnet for a few months now and i'm finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands (partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/Wives etc).
I have seen lots and lots of posts about lazy, untidy, miserable other halves that I thought it might be nice to have a thread purely taking some time out to appreciate the great ones :)
I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! He works hard to keep myself, our 2 cats and our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak, in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things. Now don't get me wrong, we're by no means flush, but we are comfortable. I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more and i'm grateful.
He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him. He truly is a wonderful man and every day - even when he's driving me crazy - I count my lucky stars that I landed on my feet. We met 15 years ago, have been friends since. Started dating 7 years ago and have been married for 2 years in July. He's my best friend and I can't wait to start the next part of our lifetime journey with him.
I know this sounds soppy, probably quite daft and extremely slushy, but I just wanted to see if I could try and help those who are wanting to ring their Husband's necks at the moment, to try to remember the reasons they fell in love and all the things they still love about their partners.
100% not meant to sound boasty or anything like that, so please be nice :)

I think it's more impolite to shit all over peoples achievements and drag them down just to abide by the mass self deprecation

OP, I think it's great you take the time to appreciate your OH. Congratulations on your pregnancy

It's not just this post though, its all sorts of posts. I remember reading of one poster who was a bit sad about her son being behind in reading because he was multi lingual. She got flamed for stealth boasting and gloating. It was embarrassing!

People need to chill out. The post wasn't hurting anyone.

Since when has the Relationships Board only been about bad relationships? I must have missed that memo

Wow, I hope I never turn out as bitter as @Oria and @KOKOtiltomorrow

It's not everyone else's fault your lives are shit 🙄

P.s. my husband is fab 😁

Some horrible bitchy responses here. No wonder some of their husbands legged it!

I too have a lovely partner op, best man in the world, he's kind, considerate, always helps others, he's funny, shows me nothing but respect and he is gorgeous!

He proposed recently and I couldn't be happier.

I love positive relationship posts.
Focus on the good and your life gets better.
Focus on the bad.........
My dh is fab too.
25 years and 4 kids and I've never been happier.
Having kids brought us closer than I ever could of imagine.
Now it's just the 2 of us at home and we're reliving the honeymoon stage 😍

Congratulations myheart!

@Robin2323 that is so lovely it's made my heart all warm. Congrats x

Leave her be, she is doing nothing wrong she is trying to create a happy upbeat thread not be nasty or boastful.

Dont you all like to be appreciated? Why can't she appreciate her DH.

Let her be happy,she may continue happy or be posting here in a few years time.
We all married and were mostly madly in love for the first 2 years.(or until we had children).
My marriage was blissful until my daughter was about 3-4.His Dad died and he got depression.I stuck by him,we had some reasonable years but he became more and more difficult.I stuck it until DD was 12 when he threatened me with a knife(a 'joke' apparently).
My happy marriage ended after I found somewhere to live and DD and I went on her birthday with our clothes in bin liners and a few sticks of furniture that he wouldn't chase me for.We had to buy everything from teaspoons to beds.
But that didn't stop those early years being magic.Thats where OP is,let her be.

@Hotterthanahotthing OP has had 15 years with her partner 7 where they are happy. Just because your marriage went wrong does not mean hers will be. Furthermore, there is no defining moment in any marriage where things go wrong, so all of this "oh she is in the beginning" or "before kids" posts are so patronising.

There are many, many people who live happily with their partners and are in healthy relationships, with and without children. Just because it's not the case for you, does not mean it's not the case for others, or will not be.

Many people continue to grow in love, some grow further in love after children. It's not always doom and gloom.

I for one am happy there's a positive appreciation post here in relationships. Perhaps more of us should speak up so that more can see that healthy happy long term relationships DO exist. We are so drowned in negative here, that those happy get shot down immediately, it should not be this way.

Actually I think it's nice to see posts about good relationships where the men actually pull their weight etc. Reading this board can slowly turn you against men so it's good to be reminded that there are plenty of good ones out there. All the best op.

You know what, I read this post, I was really annoyed, but then had to work a couple hours for pm meeting & didn't comment. Annoyed enough to return and say my piece!
Why do posters think they can offend, offer their opinion however callous & unkind, because there is no accountability as a anon?
I've been with my husband over 20 years, no-one I know in friends or family have the same relationship I have. Everyone I do know " loves" their husband. But it's all relative...
What you know, what your experiences are, what you've learned etc.
I do ADORE my husband. I think he's wonderful & the sun shines out of his arse!
My friends/family love their's too... but
one doesn't tell her husband what she spends, one is happy with her lot, one plays golf most wknd's, one has sex that last 10 mins max, one doesn't pay her enough attention, one does nothing around the house, one is emotionally inept. I could go on.
My husband isn't any of these things, he adores me/children equally.
20 years is a long time in a relationship, he still gives me butterflies, makes me laugh, shares the chores, works his socks off.
I don't think OP was point scoring, just happy to declare her love, whether pregnancy bubble or not.
Why have some nasty horrible bitches shit on her parade?
Accept, other's happiness, love, relationships, sex life, family life, differs from everybody else. It doesn't make her wrong or better than the rest of us!
I LOVE/ADORE/FEEL LUCKY I HAVE MY HUSBAND. BITE ME...

I can't believe people are seriously this mean to other people!
I think it's great OP you speak so nicely of your husband. I see what you're trying to say with your post and I agree!
I also adore my partner and everything he does 🥰

Doublestandards ,I don't think you read my post properly.I had good years before it went to pot .
I was saying that OP is having good years so let her be,don't knock her enjoying it and being happy.
It may or may not work,mine didn't and we we together 17 years others do but since non of us can see into the future we should not criticise the OP for being happy in her relationship and wanting to tell us about it and for reminding some of us that although it went wrong it also gave me some fantastically happy years .
Oh,and in my case there was a defining moment when things went wrong.Im not sure where I generalised about others

Posted to soon.My only generalisation was that we are all madly in love(I hope)when we get married,OP is happy so let her be.

I don't mind OPs post about her DH. I hope she tells him these things and I hope he tells her too.

It probably could have been worded a bit better as in a thread about one of your favourite things about your DH/DP. That might have had a better reaction.

This section does tend to be mostly about relationship problems as there are so many women in terrible relationships and they may not want to confide in someone IRL right now. The women on here are smart and savvy and will tell it like it is and so many are very helpful. So many women have been helped to get out of extremely abusive situations.

I wish you all the best OP
I have a not perfect but hopefully loyal as I am husband who I have been with for 20 years
I always read mumsnet in bed and I’m sure it induces cheating dreams !

Fucking hell some people are miserable harsh bastards

And I say that as someone who’s partner turned into a twat, cheated, stopped paying bills and when I kicked him out de used to fuck off to another country leaving his children

Glad you are happy op, hope all goes well with the pg

Same here, glad you're happy op and in love. Good luck with bubba 😀

@BlueStockingUK
Well said :)

@HolidayReads..... I hope you don’t either- it’s shit