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I am mortified - incident this morning

82 replies

TashieWoo · 03/06/2019 07:13

Firstly I am NOT a poo troll.

My boyfriend who I have been with for 18 months stayed over last night and we went out for a drink with a couple whose wedding we are going to next weekend. All very nice... he woke up a bit hungover but I’m ok, I didn’t have much. He has to leave for work at 6.30 and I don’t leave until 8 so I make coffee when he’s in the shower and bring it up, we’re having coffee and my stomach starts making funny noises so I make my excuses and practically run downstairs and luckily I can hold it until I get to the loo, then my stomach basically explodes Blush. I cleaned myself up and go upstairs and just said... I need to get into the shower and I’m sorry, please can you see yourself out, he was leaving then anyway. I didn’t want him to touch me as I felt dirty... I’ve just messaged him to explain the situation delicately.

I’m just so embarrassed and scared he won’t be attracted to me anymore, the girl who had explosive diarrhoea. So ashamed. I don’t know why I’m posting, for reassurance I guess. He would have smelt it on his way out.

OP posts:
NeatFreakMama · 03/06/2019 07:16

I wouldn't worry, these things happen! My husband has seen me in stirrups pushing a baby out and probably shitting at the same time and we still have sex Grin

Bezalelle · 03/06/2019 07:18

Chill. It's just a bodily function.

FuriousVexation · 03/06/2019 07:18

If you've been together 18 months then I'm pretty sure he knows you're a human being what shits!

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2beautifulbabs · 03/06/2019 07:23

The first night after my DH proposed to me on holiday I came down with a stomach bug and well the toilet was right by where we slept I can safely say we are still strong and have 2 DC so I think your fella ain't going to go off you just cause you had an upset tummy

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 03/06/2019 07:23

Boys aren't as heavily socialised as girls to have shame and embarrassment about their bodily functions. It just won't have registered in the same way that you had diarrhoea and that this is a huge, embarrassing deal for you. I promise you - he really doesn't care.

And 18 months in? By now you should warning each other not to move the duvet for a bit, because you've just let slip an especially eye watering fart.

Spam88 · 03/06/2019 07:23

Seriously? You did a poo in your toilet so you're worried your partner won't find you attractive anymore?

You might be over reacting a little bit.

Bunnybigears · 03/06/2019 07:28

Honestly he probably wouldnt have even realised what had happened if you hadn't been odd with him about it when you went upstairs.

MaidenMotherCrone · 03/06/2019 07:29

You made it to the loo.... it didn't happen in your bed.

Nothing to be embarrassed about.

PregnantOnPurpose · 03/06/2019 07:30

I had this, at my boyfriend house where he lived with only his dad and two brothers after wed been together for only 6 months.

He bought me a dodge kebab. I tried to play it off as belly ache to begin with, asked him to take me home, but then it got woro and he was insisting on having a shower before we left so i had to explain "I've got a really upset tummy, I need to go now"

I couldn't being myself to go in his bathroom as it was a small bathroom. Right next to his bedroom and I knew I could hear others seeing in there so I could definitely be heard.

I was convinced he was going to leave me and think i was disgusting. It actually triggered a huge problem got anxiety for me. I ended up never leaving the house or going anywhere, if I left the house my stomach would instantly started churning. I eventually got therapy.

We've been together for 5 years now and are expecting our first baby.

I think men know we poo.. I doubt hes even though anything if it OP. I hope your ok :) x

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TashieWoo · 03/06/2019 07:36

Thank you for the kind replies... yes we have been together for 18 months and I’ve known him a lot longer but we don’t get to spend that much time together due to family and work commitments. See each other once a week usually but we’re close with each other’s families and have been on holiday together etc.

Basically it went everywhere and I’ve just bleached the loo. There was a bit on my dressing gown which I had to wear back upstairs but it was on the inside so hopefully he didn’t notice.

Feel sick and having cold sweats now. It isn’t a hangover as this happened to me last week when I hadn’t had a drink. Don’t know whether to see the GP as this can’t keep happening.

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Myfoolishboatisleaning · 03/06/2019 07:40

You shat in the toilet? Blimey, I thought that build up was to say you shat on his face or something. Why would you need to explain shitting in a toilet? It’s all ok.

Fairylea · 03/06/2019 07:41

Please don’t feel bad op, I don’t think anyone gets to old age without this happening at least a few times! Dodgy stomachs happen to everyone. Hopefully he should be nice and understanding.

If it’s becoming a regular thing it’s good to get checked over by your GP just to make sure there isn’t anything else weird going on- could be anything from ibs, to allergies to Crohn’s disease and etc etc etc.

Hope you feel better soon.

Runbitchrun · 03/06/2019 07:41

The GP? Is this something that happens regularly OP? If not, you’ve probably got a stomach bug and it will soon pass. Please don’t go to the GP and pass it to everyone else.

Pinotjo · 03/06/2019 07:42

I wouldn't worry to much, we love a good poo story in our house, hopefully your boyfriend does too Flowers

NameChangeNugget · 03/06/2019 07:44

Most people would see the funny side in this.

Don’t sweat the small stuff

diddl · 03/06/2019 07:45

So it wasn't in even the room that he was showering in?

What a fuss about nothing!

Hope that you're feelin better soon.

Bishalisha · 03/06/2019 07:46

The first night after my DH proposed to me on holiday I came down with a stomach bug and well the toilet was right by where we slept I can safely say we are still strong and have 2 DC

Yup, my explosive diarrhoea was the night before

MondieBee · 03/06/2019 07:47

Op I shat the bed a few years ago due to the most horrific food poisoning. DH wasn't in the bed when it happened to be fair but he did wash the sheets for me, and has appeared to still find me attractive. We all get ill, it's mortifying sometimes but it's ok.

londonrach · 03/06/2019 07:49

Seriously op...its poo. Relax. Dh and i had it both ways in a hotel once in usa and one bathroom. That was interesting. Hope you feeling better soon. X

DerelictWreck · 03/06/2019 07:51

I'm really confused. You were embarrassed and rude to your boyfriend because you had a messy poo in the toilet at your own home?!

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TashieWoo · 03/06/2019 07:51

Thank you all... I do feel sick and shaky but I think that’s the worry more than anything, still hasn’t read my message but I know he’ll be flat out at work now. Getting ready to go to work myself in a min.

And daily mail - please don’t use this as a story.

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TashieWoo · 03/06/2019 07:53

@derelict yes... I just had to get into the shower and he saw himself out. It had gone down my legs ffs and I cleaned myself up with loo roll but felt disgusting.

OP posts:
Nameusernameuser · 03/06/2019 07:55

My DP has done this IN THE BED twice! Once when wed been together about a year and once around 18 months. He has Crohn's disease so I'll let him off, but trust me it's fine you're a human being that poos!

MondieBee · 03/06/2019 07:55

Why are you going to work. If it's noro or something you'll give it to everyone. That's not fair.