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I am mortified - incident this morning

82 replies

TashieWoo · 03/06/2019 07:13

Firstly I am NOT a poo troll.

My boyfriend who I have been with for 18 months stayed over last night and we went out for a drink with a couple whose wedding we are going to next weekend. All very nice... he woke up a bit hungover but I’m ok, I didn’t have much. He has to leave for work at 6.30 and I don’t leave until 8 so I make coffee when he’s in the shower and bring it up, we’re having coffee and my stomach starts making funny noises so I make my excuses and practically run downstairs and luckily I can hold it until I get to the loo, then my stomach basically explodes Blush. I cleaned myself up and go upstairs and just said... I need to get into the shower and I’m sorry, please can you see yourself out, he was leaving then anyway. I didn’t want him to touch me as I felt dirty... I’ve just messaged him to explain the situation delicately.

I’m just so embarrassed and scared he won’t be attracted to me anymore, the girl who had explosive diarrhoea. So ashamed. I don’t know why I’m posting, for reassurance I guess. He would have smelt it on his way out.

OP posts:
IntoValhalla · 03/06/2019 07:59

I had a sickness bug, and had my own vomit dripping from my hair when my DH proposed Grin 5 years and nearly 3 kids later and he’s seen it all....including 2 of those kids exiting my body while I shat!
All will be fine OP Smile

rosie1959 · 03/06/2019 08:05

Most men really don't worry about such natural occurrences as a big poo Its usually a female thing
You really are over thinking this
I have no such hangups and probably to the disgust of some I can happily have a big poo whilst my DH is in the shower We have been married nearly 40 years so pretty sure it doesn't bother him !

Lovemusic33 · 03/06/2019 08:08

I had someone stay over at Christmas for the first time (just started dating) and had a IBS flair up after over eating, I was running to the loo for a hour and ended up taking Imodium, he knew I was ill and pooping through the eye of a needle but we kind of made a joke of it. I’m sure most guys wouldn’t be disgusted, it’s a bodily function and people do get poorly. It happens to me a lot, can be caused by something I have eaten, nerves or stress.

JinglingHellsBells · 03/06/2019 08:09

You might have IBS and / or be allergic to alcohol. I know someone with IBS who cannot drink more than 1 drink .

As for being embarrassed- well, it's not that bad.

I think I'd question your relationship if you feel so bad after being ill and not being able to share or explain.

Maybe he's not right for you if this makes you feel so bad?

SimonJT · 03/06/2019 08:19

When my ex and I hadn’t been together long he had a drunken accident and couldn’t use his hands properly for two weeks so I had to wipe his arse.

Shit happens, it really isn’t a big issue.

ptumbi · 03/06/2019 08:24

OP - if it had happened to your bf, how would you feel?

Dis-fucking-gusted????? Hmm

Or sympathetic?

Or grossed out?

Or just - you know, we are animals, and we need to shit, and sometimes it's a bit more explosive than we expect. i think even dogs/chimps/hamsters have a surprise shit sometimes.

IF he is grossed out, and doesn't want to see you again, it's a blessing. And he will be alone forever if he can't accept that his GF shits. And vomits, And has nose hairs. And gets Colds. And maybe might even have a baby -with all the blood and tears and sweat and mucus and swearing.

DuffBeer · 03/06/2019 08:33

I'd been with my boyfriend for about two months and had liquid diarrhoea after eating too much ice cream.

The toilet was on the other side of the wall from the bed! So he was treated to all the wonderful sloshing noises and there was nothing I could do to disguise it.

We have been together for 13 yrs so no harm done!

nc100 · 03/06/2019 08:38

You're going to work? Shock to do what? Spread your illness? Not nice.

JaynePoole · 03/06/2019 08:46

If it was something like Noro she wouldn't have been able to post. I think that a reaction to the alcohol is more likely.

ginghamtablecloths · 03/06/2019 08:52

It's just an ordinary bodily function and there are worse things to worry about. While a little unpleasant, when you gain more experience in life you'll not be phased by this. In the great scheme of things this is fairly low down in the list. So don't worry yourself.

isabellerossignol · 03/06/2019 08:57

I'm sure your colleagues will be delighted to share your stomach bug...

INeedNewShoes · 03/06/2019 08:58

I promise the Daily Mail won't use this as a story, because it isn't a story.

This is not a big deal. In the nicest possible way, get a grip! And stop thinking of this tiny event as an 'incident'.

INeedNewShoes · 03/06/2019 09:00

I missed that you're going to work.
That's very selfish, isn't it?!

Aside from that, you may well have more episodes today and you won't cope well with having to deal with diarrhea at work I imagine.

EskewedBeef · 03/06/2019 09:02

My now husband got the screaming shits on our first weekend away together when I was in the shower of the hotel ensuite. These things happen, you just laugh about it and mention it as often as possible.

hopeishere · 03/06/2019 09:04

I honestly thought you were going to say you shat the bed. Stop being a ninny. And you were rude and weird to your boyfriend. Are you generally like this about bodily functions??

Also it's probably the result of alcohol rather than a bug.

hipposarerad · 03/06/2019 09:07

When me and DP had been 'official' for a few months (can't remember how many months, but a lot less than you and your DP) we went for a weekend away. We got to our nice but very compact room and he went into the bathroom, shut the door, immediately opened it again and said awkwardly "erm...you might want to put the telly on..." Whilst looking at his shoes. I got it, and wasn't repulsed.

Everyone shits, chill out.

fedup21 · 03/06/2019 09:11

You did a tricky poo in your own toilet?! I’m sure he’ll cope with the stress.

It’s probably the booze but if not-you shouldn’t be going to work to infect everyone else Confused

Tinkobell · 03/06/2019 09:19

Meh. Wouldn't give it another thought. Do you think he might be under the romantic illusion that ladies excrete sweet smelling lavender bags? 😁

Tinkobell · 03/06/2019 09:21

Hey - least it wasn't both ends simultaneously 😁 ....that's never good and very hard to disguise the acoustics!

susan82 · 03/06/2019 09:23

We're all human, it happens to us all at some point, don't worry at all!

CoconutAmericano · 03/06/2019 09:24

I’m only with my bf a few months and when we got in to bed together last week I rolled over and did the loudest high pitched squeal of a fart I think I’ve ever done. I would have been mortified but he howled laughing so I did too. These things happen. He still wants to ride me sideways so it’s all good Grin

Icecreamcake86 · 03/06/2019 09:29

😂 sorry but made giggle reading this. Tbh id be a bit mortified but im sure you'll be fine..iv been with my partner nearly 11 years and still dont fart in front of him..just cant! Often a topic of conversation with the girls but apparently its weird. Oh well.

MyNewBearTotoro · 03/06/2019 09:35

So essentially you woke up this morning in your own house and had a poo in the toilet whilst DP was in the shower in a different part of the house?

Sorry but in no way is this an ‘incident.’ If he was in the shower upstairs at the time I doubt he heard or even would have been aware of you hadn’t rushed him out of the house and then sent a message explaining your odd behaviour.

If the relationship is going to last then no doubt he will see much worse than this in the future. Pooing in a toilet in your own home whilst your partner is upstairs is really no big deal - if you’d not made it to the toilet or had had to go in the same room a he was showering I might understand being mortified but honestly this was nothing.

If your anxiety is based on him being funny aroundbodily functions before (Eg: if he’s the kind of man to be horrible about periods) andhis opinion does change after you’ve done a poo in your toilet whilst he was home in another too
then it can only be a good thing that you’ve found out now as I can promise if you want a future involving children with this man then pregnancy and birth throw up all sorts of toilet problems and if he can’t deal with his partner pooing in a toilet then you can guarantee he won’t deal with nappy changes etc for a baby.

Tobe123 · 03/06/2019 09:48

Myfoolishboatisleaning omg trying to hold in my laughter at work at your comment!!! Shat on his face (grin)

Thatsnotmyotter · 03/06/2019 09:57

I recently had a stomach bug and DH had to bring me drinks and stuff whilst I was actually on the loo shitting my guts up (there was no breaks so had no choice!)... our sex life remains execellent.