I don’t know if I am going mad or totally soft. I married my DH 19 yrs ago. Everything was great he was my BFF and we done so much together. Then one day not long after our DS was born I found women’s clothes hidden in his bag. When confronted he said it was from ages ago, that his ex GF got him into it and he would never do it again. I believed him. We went on to have a beautiful DD and moved out of London. Shortly after DD no2 was born. Life was great. We started going through some difficulties, he was getting over familiar with a women at work, then accused her of stalking him. We worked through it. Then I had a bout of depression. He wasn’t totally supportive of it. Then again I found female underwear and a dress hidden, he said he was really sorry and it wouldn’t happen again, I didn’t want any of the children finding it. Then we started having other issues, and he walked out on us without explanation. Six months later I took him back. Things never went back to how they were. Well 4 years on and my youngest DD found ladies clothing hidden in his bag. He hasn’t denied anything not even that he may of worn the clothes in my bed. (We use the same bed but sleep at different times 1 due to his job and 2 I never got over him walking out and accusing me of faking my depression saying it wasn’t real as mental illness is. It real.) I now have loved him into our back from as I can’t have him even in the same bedroom. The children all know about it but find it hard to get that dad likes to wear women’s clothes. I just can’t kick him out this is his house as well and he would have nowhere to go, but also I can’t love a man that has lied so long and so much and also wants to wear women’s clothes. Am I being unreasonable to suggest we have a legal separation. Sorry for the waffle