My DH is mostly lovely. 90 % of the time. He is however, very stressed at work. He's a Police Officer and there are not enough staff.
This manifests itself in him being "down" when he's at home. I know he is stressed, so I do literally everything at home, like food shopping, cooking, cleaning, washing, loading and unloading dishwasher, taking out the bins. You name it, I do it. I don't mind, as I work from home (my own business) so I am here, and I have the time.
Like I say, he is nice 90% of the time. But when he is not, he says the most awful things.
Examples:
"you're the type of person who would report a man for rape when you hadn't" (no idea where this same from, I have never been raped, nor accused anyone of rape, but he sees this at his work, he says)
"No wonder your Ex beat you up"
"No wonder your kids don't want to come here to see you" (if we argue and they are here...they are adults and the argument in question would be started by him)
"I'm a different kind of person to you, at least I'd like to think so"...this was because I spilled a drink on his laptop which killed it and I didn't replace it, however, it was a few days before his 40th, and my parents had bought him a new laptop for his bday! So kind of inferring I was tight with money, which is SO off the mark.....He was in £18k debt when we met, which I helped him to negotiate settlements for (I have a banking background) and he is now debt free. I got made redundant from my job of 27 yrs, and with my settlement paid for our wedding and honeymoon (and way more besides, like furniture and garden landscaping).
Also, he has told me that I have it easy because I work from home. And how I don't get how busy his job is (he said this whilst smacking his hand off his forehead like a mad man). I kind of do though, as I was a Special Constable for 5 years, so I have a real insight into his job. And even though I work from home, I earn more than him and contribute slightly more too (plus doing all the chores).
He hardly ever wants sex (different thread I guess).
Sorry, rambling now, as I have had too much wine.
He apologised profusely before going to work about this mornings comments. Maybe only because I totally lost my shit though, I'm so fed up of this nonsense!