Should I ask the plumber out?

[Sunbeamofthenorth]

Evening all!
Posting here for traffic & a name change!
I'm having some work done on my house.
The plumber is hot.
I'm a single mum (single for two years) 😱☺️with zero self confidence!
We've been chatting. There's a definite connection. I think.
No wedding ring and no mention of a partner (we have chatted loads)
I almost asked him today and then thought it'll be mortifying if he says no and has to return.
He's confirmed the job is done.
He texted and thanked me for the testimonial and said 'have a wonderful evening'
Should I just message and ask him out? Any tips on wording? 🤔

Definitely message, nothing to lose, lots to gain!

Hi MrPlumber,

No worries about the testimonial, it's a reflection of how good the job is! I've enjoyed chatting with you these past few days/weeks and wondered if you fancied going for a coffee/drink/dinner this week to talk more?

Definitely!

Althouhh if he's a good plumber, says no anf you're embarrassed you may lose a good plumber

Will you need to see him again? If you do then it could be awkward if he declines the offer. If you don't need to see him again then go for it.

Did you discuss a mutual hobby or interest? For example you could suggest going to see a particular genre of film or type of band together?

Hope it goes well

Everyone needs to have a good plumber in their phone

No, these people are always chatty and helpful. Its part of the job. Doesn't mean they fancy you. I'm sure you're lovely but don't humiliate yourself.

Do it! I think if you say what @Needtobuildabridge wrote out then it's casual enough for it not to be embarrassing if he says no and you need a plumber in the future.
Don't ask don't get!

He could text and ask you out.

He might but the op wants to ask him out.
Agree the pps wording is perfect.

Some men don’t want an instant family. Also don’t want to mix work and pleasure.

I asked the plumber out. He wasn't my plumber he was my best friends plumber. I happened to pop in one day when he was there, plumbing :-)

Afterwards my friend text to say she'd told him I was single and she'd asked if she could give me his number. He'd said yes, so I sent him a text.
Never heard back!

needtobuildabridge
Love the wording.
I'm going to do it....

Ooh following...

Can you not just text back a chatty text wishing him a good evening too or something in the hope that it will start off a text conversation that can then lead to you asking him. If he's interested he want to be texting. This allows you to put some feelers out without just straight asking him out if he's not interested.

Lol why can't people just say they are single. Everyone has to label themselves. On the other hand go for it If he is single too and you have a connection

Go for it - he can only say no!

Text sent. We've been chatting a lot in person. He was late going to another job today but didn't seem to be dashing off...
If I've misread things then so be it.... 😁

Ooh good luck!

What would you say worries you most, not doing it and always wondering if you had or asking and getting a no..? Ask yourself that and then make a decision!

Ooh how exciting !!

Oooo I hope my message was the start of a beautiful love story Good Luck OP!

Good luck. Let us know what he says.

It depends....do you want to examine his....

Errm, sorry, as you were.

Go for it OP.

Fingers crossed 🤞

missbee I've not done a lot of things in my life and always wondered what if...
So that's why I'm texting him.
Let's see....