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AIBU - OH celebrity crush

88 replies

Meeeh · 22/05/2019 14:19

Don’t know if I should laugh or cry. Maybe cry with laughter....

My OH has a long standing crush on a celebrity. Which is fine. Because Ryan Reynolds is mine.

However, he (my OH, not Ryan) frequently leaves comments on her social media like “I’m here for you” and such.

I have no doubt his chances with this celebrity are beyond nonexistent - just feel like it’s a bit strange. He’s in a relationship.

Whaddayathink mumsnetters of wisdom?

PS - Please be kind to eachother if you comment or you owe me a bottle of rose Smile

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holdupthere · 22/05/2019 14:20

Ew yea that'd make me feel
A) embarrassed. Who does that apart from pervy weirdos
B) turned off. Could not be attracted to a man like this

holdupthere · 22/05/2019 14:20

Ew yea that'd make me feel
A) embarrassed. Who does that apart from pervy weirdos
B) turned off. Could not be attracted to a man like this

holdupthere · 22/05/2019 14:20

Ew yea that'd make me feel
A) embarrassed. Who does that apart from pervy weirdos
B) turned off. Could not be attracted to a man like this

holdupthere · 22/05/2019 14:21

Argh sorry it kept saying 'failed to post'

I feel strongly about your predicament but not strongly enough to say it three times Grin

Worlds0kayestmum · 22/05/2019 14:23

Oh goodness, my DP has a celebrity crush and it doesn't bother me, I even buy him her calendar at Christmas as a joke. I know he follows her on Instagram but doesn't comment. If he were to leave those types of comments I would find it extremely inappropriate not to mention deeply cringy.
Have you spoken to him about it?

PolarBearBubbles · 22/05/2019 14:24

Creepy and cringey. He sounds tragic.
I'd be utterly embarrassed if my DH did anything like that!

HarryElephante · 22/05/2019 14:24

Who's the crush?

Drogosnextwife · 22/05/2019 14:26

That's embarrassing. Sounds a bit stalkerish tbh.

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Meeeh · 22/05/2019 14:31

Not important who it is 😂. I will say she’s pretty wholesome and a bit of “thinking man’s crumpet” rather than a sexy minx that posts nudes etc. Not sure that makes it any better.

I don’t really want to regulate his behaviour - posted this to see what other people think as I’m sure I’m not the only one....

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EmeraldRubyShark · 22/05/2019 14:31

Eww.

Fancying a celeb is normal.

Leaving creepy messages offering emotional support as if they’re friends or she’s ever gonna reach out to a random fans just sounds tragic and borderline delusional.

‘I’m here for you’ is skin crawlingly creepy. Sounds almost like he’s built his crush up in his head and started to forget what’s fantasy and what’s real. Not to mention he’s trying to open the lines of communication (whether or not she accepts) by inviting her to contact him. Which goes way beyond a crush and more into ‘if she’d have me I’d leave you in a shot’ territory.

EmeraldRubyShark · 22/05/2019 14:33

It’s Holly Willoughby isn’t it 😂

cakecakecheese · 22/05/2019 14:34

Well yes nothing wrong with having a celeb crush but that message is just odd. Whoever it is probably has plenty of people to be 'there for her' so really doesn't need it from a random internet guy.

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Meeeh · 22/05/2019 14:42

@emeraldrubyshark not Holly 😂
Actually, I think I’d be there for Holly as she seems like an absolute legend....

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ACPC · 22/05/2019 14:46

Celebrity or not it's weird leaving familiar messeges like that. Creepy and cringy. Admiring from a far is ok, we all do that.

holdupthere · 22/05/2019 14:48

It's that Rachel Riley isn't it!!

WoollyMollyMonkey · 22/05/2019 14:48

Holly bloody Willoughby is definitely NOT an example of “thinking man’s crumpet” Grin [falls to ground laughing]

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 22/05/2019 14:49

I'm here for you - way over the top and frankly weird.

TrixieFranklin · 22/05/2019 14:58

Rachel Riley?

Johngon · 22/05/2019 15:04

Well, if I was Victoria Corren-Mitchell (or whoever it is) I would be Hmm at those comments. So for my DP to make them is at best highly cringeworthy. I wouldnt be afraid to tell him it was a bit gross and embarrassing and he was making a fool of himself.

Hotpinkangel19 · 22/05/2019 15:09

Ewww, how embarrassing! Poor you OP!

desparate4sleep · 22/05/2019 15:17

Rachel Riley

hellsbellsmelons · 22/05/2019 15:23

Tragic - I'd hate it.
How friggin' embarrassing!!!!
What is he??? 12??

twirlypoo · 22/05/2019 15:31

My ex did / does this! I brought it up and said that i found it disrespectful because it was public and all our friends could see his comments and not just me. He was commenting things like she looked amazing, he wished he was there, very sexy with love heart eyes and stuff. He stopped for a bit “so he didn’t get in trouble” but now we have split is back on to it. It just makes me feel a bit sorry for him as it looks so desperate - but it hurt me at the time, and I felt a bit, I dunno, embarrassed?

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Meeeh · 22/05/2019 15:49

@twirlypoo that’s spot on. I don’t actually feel mugged off as it’s ridiculous fantasy rather than someone he knows or remotely on his level but I do feel a bit embarrassed on his behalf as he’s a grown man.

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Helmetbymidnight · 22/05/2019 15:51

honestly? no i cant say, its too weird.