Looking for quick advice - another cheating story!

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Sadly another cheating story ... found out my boyfriend of nearly 3 years on fabswingers, with positive recent reviews
Of course he is going to get dumped. But we are off to holiday together with my DC (whom he's known for nearly 2 years) in 3 days for 9 days, a long drive abroad and accommodation booked and paid.

He doesn't know yet I know.
Do I carry on for holidays and dump him straight after?
Do I reveal and we still try and go on amicable terms?
Do I reveal and we cancel holiday? (It will be difficult to explain to DC who are looking forward)

What do I do?

You get rid and go on hols with the kids alone. Get to a drop in centre for std checks asap.

Exactly.

Get rid immediately.

And it's not difficult to explain to the DC. So and so isn't mummy's partner any more, we've split up. He cheated on mummy and when a person does that you get rid of them. Show a good example of a strong woman.

I can't go alone. He is driving over 1000 miles. I don't drive.

Blimey that’s awkward. If I could afford it. I would ditch the holiday and go somewhere else. But that might not be possible.
I don’t know how you’re going to keep it together for 9 days.

Ouch that's really tough. Would you lose all money paid for holiday? Can you afford to cancel and take DC somewhere else where you don't need to drive?

I think it would be really tough to do any other option. Sorry you're going through this.

It really is the three options in my OP as I cannot afford going on my own with DC. I am dying to send him screenshots of the 'evidence' or meet up as his fake self is proposing to the fabswingers woman (me, my fake profile). I need to think this through.
He also owes me some money so if I block him I am unlikely to get it back..

Sorry to hear this OP. I would just let him know and cancel the holiday/try to find another means of getting there without him. What a dirtbag!

If you cannot go without him then cancel. The money you lent may well have to be written off as a life lesson.

Every other option is just ridiculous really. The tension, spoken or unspoken, will be unbearable for you and the children. Add in a 1000 car journey (why?) and you may as well go straight to therapy. That’s not a holiday it is a mental and physical endurance test.

Bus, train, plane or cancel the holiday.
You cannot go on holiday with this person.

How did you find out? Quite recently I discovered my dh's profile from years ago-pre me - on a different site. They do actually reinvent /reactivate old profiles to advertise the site itself..
I joined to' spy 'and it actually said I had reviews going back years and had been on all night messaging!! I hadn't been a member for ten mins at that point!
Be certain op.

Let me tell you a story...

Four years ago I found out my ExH was cheating. We had a holiday booked for the August with our 12yo DD and somehow I didn't let on to him that I knew so that we could go, and my DD would get to enjoy what I knew would be our last family holiday together.

Halfway through the holiday I broke down and told ExH that I knew and that we'd talk when we got home. Other than that I held it together and DD had a lovely holiday.

I don't regret going ahead with it one bit as DD + I made some great memories when ExH wasn't around, but it was really hard. Only you know what you'll be able to cope with. I wish you luck

Carry on, don't have sex with him and dump him as soon as you are in reach of home.
I have form for dumping partners while on holidays (that I paid my share of).

It's certain. I've had doubt tingling. I fake-messaged him and he replied straight away with face photos and propositions to meet tonight.

There’s no point in trying. It won’t work.

I am guessing his reaction would be all 'gentleman'y , 'it is what it is' and I don't know expect any drama from him.. it's kind of self explanatory.

Let him drive there, chuck him out on arrival, have a lovely holiday and figure out how to get back (there must be public transport options?).

It's a drive to Spain..

I personally would go, have a great time with your children and make some memories. Then deal with the rest when you are home.

@Gloveislove would you tell him that I know though?

Surely flying to Spain has got to be cheaper than driving?

People it’s a driving holiday!!! IE
staying at places along the way, do the same back.

You'll be wanting to push him off the ferry before you get as far as Spain. Stuff the holiday, dump the fucker now.

I wouldn't go. You've gone on plenty of holidays with him before.
I would just end it.

You can do something nice with your DC local without this cheating arse.

Book yourself an STI test too.