Looking for quick advice - another cheating story!

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Sadly another cheating story ... found out my boyfriend of nearly 3 years on fabswingers, with positive recent reviews
Of course he is going to get dumped. But we are off to holiday together with my DC (whom he's known for nearly 2 years) in 3 days for 9 days, a long drive abroad and accommodation booked and paid.

He doesn't know yet I know.
Do I carry on for holidays and dump him straight after?
Do I reveal and we still try and go on amicable terms?
Do I reveal and we cancel holiday? (It will be difficult to explain to DC who are looking forward)

What do I do?

Or was the hacker going to play some kind of long-game, complex financial scam the woman (you) - again without managing to meet up or Skype or anything; because they'd be a different person the the ones whose photos they'd sent. Plus the hacker immediately arranged a meet up?

Seriously ..

So his phone was hacked and all the hackers did was setup a profile on fabswingers, then went to it and somehow got postive reviews even though they wouldn't have looked like him

He certainly has got more front than Woolworths hasn't he

Just tell him his excuses are risible and don't even discuss them with him
how insulting to fob you off with that nonsense

I'd be suggesting we make a police report if he wants to go down the "hacked phone" route. Surely he'll want to go to the station straight away and make a report of criminal activity and identity theft?

Dump him and don't go on the holiday.

Get some self respect for fuck sake. Tell him it's over and block him. Tell the kids he was a cheater and sadly no holiday now but you'll take them to the beach, a few days out etc.

What @ PurpleGlitter1983 Said.

I would go, enjoy with your children, try to get the money owed paid back to you and dump on return, letting him then know that you knew for a while. Let him know what being deceived feels like.

Book a flight!

Any chance you could approach whoever you booked the accommodation with and explain the situation. See if you could get even a partial refund. You might be lucky and get a cheap package or use anything you get back to do something else with your children. Stay stong. You'll be well rid.

Cancel.

Purple she's doing great.
No need for that.

I agree with another PP.
Tell him your conclusion is he is a lying, cheating scumbag.
But... if he wants to prove to you he isn't then you are willing to go the police station with him to report this criminal offence against him!
He will backtrack like mad.

Then book a different holiday with you and the kids. Fancy Disneyland?

What made you check the site in the first place?
I can confirm that people do steal identities. Someone stole my online photos and set up an account on a swinging site. I then received an email of "my" site!!! It was difficult to see that someone had done that but it does happen.
I'm not saying your boyfriend didn't do it, but at least give him the chance to talk.

Could you book flights for yourself and kids so you can still use your accommodation?

Hellsbells

Seriously there is need.
With knobbers like you encouraging her to waste more time and energy on this dude playing silly games.

Grow up. Both of you.

While he's feeling like this is there any way you could get the money he owes back? Then you can tell him to sod off.

I wouldn't give him any more air time. Cancel the holiday, block him and concentrate on your kids.

There is no way his phone would be 'hacked' if he has responded to people contacting him. Lies, lies, lies.

I’d get rid now and get along to a STD clinic

I love that.
I don't want to grow up.
Although I am 50 so probably quite grown up already.
But I do hope not. Being a grown up sucks!

OP just needs real actual proof.
She needs to be totally clear in her mind that this is what is happening.
Been there and got the t-shirt.
You just need it for proper closure.
I just know what OP is going through and understand what she may need right now.
It's only a suggestion (that I stole from a previous PP)
OP doesn't have to follow anything anyone says.

Arent the reviews enough proof?

You should have really carried on messaging him on your fake profile and arranged a meet and when he left to go ‘meet her’ that was your proof.

Oh dear I feel for you but honestly I wouldn’t go on the holiday it won’t be enjoyable for you and as others have said kids do pick up on the tension.

Dump him
Cancel the holiday and get back any money you can (and it stops him using the accommodation)
Save up and book another holiday with the dc

I would hope reviews are enough proof but these guys are sooooo good at making it look like something else is going on.
And we hang on to that tiny hope.
Well.... I don't any more - all men can get to fuck as far I'm concerned.
Very happy being single so I avoid all this crap!