Acceptable contact with a female friend

[lifeisarollercoaster11]

Out of interest, what is acceptable to you regarding
Your partner/ husband/ boyfriends contact with his female best friend. What are your limits in terms of what you will accept in your relationship .ta.

The same as I would his male best friend.

Would
You accept
Up
To
Ten texts a day

No limits. Same as any other friend.

I don't see a difference in genders here. I wouldn't set limits or dictate my partner's friendships and would be appalled if he tried to tell me what I could and couldn't do in this regard. It's far too controlling.

The question would be more does he spend an acceptable amount of quality time with you.

I think a lot would depend on individual circumstances. DH has a dear female friend who’s relationship outdates “us” per se and they are members of the same sports club, so see each other 2-3 times per week.
Doesn’t bother me in the slightest

Of course. Mind you, I wouldn't even be counting.

Even if they work
Together all
Day and send eachother love hearts and make nauseating declarations
Of their respect and love for eachother ?

Yes of course I would accept ten texts a day. And I wouldn't be counting them so wouldn't know. I can text my friend that in an evening.

I talk to my Male friends all day. Much more than 10 messages. So I wouldn't be comfortable setting limits.

Why does it annoy you? Do you ever see what they talk about?

Would
You
Let
Him
Dictate
How
Often
You
Can
Speak
To
Friends?

Op what are you doing here? Are you just going to keep making it worse and worse till someone tells you it's wrong?

Are they really sending each other love hearts and declaring their love for one another like that? Or are you just a mad jealous head?

Did you post about this the other day?

She’s older and he says “hello gorgeous”?

Is this a weird quiz? Or in code? Or just my phone gone strange?

Yes they are really sending eachother love hearts and telling eachother how great they think eachother are . And yes, it goes on all evening. No I don't see a lot of texts as he tends to turn it off when we are together but sometimes I see things coming through. I'm not stupid. I see his active status on night after night and I know it's with her coz it ain't with me and they are as tight as bound rope

No he never has said hello gorgous. He calls her by her name

You don't get to police his friendships.
If you arent OK with it, that's fine. You dint have to be. You just suck it up, you talk to him, or you walk away.

How long have you been together?

Have you every told him it makes you feel uncomfortable?

I see his active status on night after night

Stalking.

Hardly stalking. He messages me and them ignores me but dips in and out of on line statuses with someone else . Having a conversation for a matter of hours

The oy way you'd know him in and offline changes over several hours is if youre constantly checking.
This isn't healthy.

How long together?

I wouldn’t like it personally. He is taking his energies away from you towards someone else. I don’t know what your situation is but if it bothers you and he doesn’t stop or cut right back then it’s a problem. Sometimes daily texts can be more intrusive than a regular drink & catch up situation. What is her manner towards you when you meet her, assuming you do

End it, if it’s bothering you.

Need context. Brand new single work friend - keep an eye on it. Pre-dates you/could have got together before you met but didn't/she is happily married - fine.

You don’t sound very happy OP. You can walk away for any reason, it doesn’t matter what anyone else would be comfortable with. We’re not you.

@lifeisarollercoaster11 my DH has 'girl friends' but doesn't have there number! Don't care what anyone thinks of that. My DH doesn't need to be texting other women, just like I don't need to text other men...

Married friend. Havent met her . Hear nothing else but all about her . Friends for a couple of years .