hi, i am a regular who has changed names for obv reasons
dh and i have been married for 7 yrs and have 3 young children. in the past he has been unfaithful to me (as in he slept with someone else) , we stayed together as it seemed really out of character and in part i kind of blamed myself a bit as i hadnt wanted to have sex for literally ages (2nd child was 4 months old at the time it happened but i didnt find out til about 6 months later).
anyway, just got back from family holiday last week, i had thought that things were going ok , we had had a nice time, he suddenly announces that he has to go back to work a few days earlier than planned as a big job has come in and he needs to see to it. so last night, he was going to be working late, he is normally back 6.30 ish to put kids to bed but i wasnt expecting him til about 10. anyway, at 6.30, he rang me while i was bathing the kids. nothing strange there. then i put kids to bed, did dishes etc and then decided to do 1471 to check that noone else had called me while i was sorting the kids out (as was waiting for a call from my brother). anyway, it was the call dh had made to me, except it wasnt his work number, it was completely different (but still a local number). this is now an hour or so after he called me from it. so i summoned up the courage and rang the number and a woman answered. i made an excuse about having a wrong number and rang off. so then, i decided to call dh at his work and he was there so that was an hour and a quarter after he had phoned me seemingly from this womans number.
so i was going to confront him last night, spent whole evening feeling a horrible sick feeling and later on that evening i casually mentioned that i had done 14713 thinking it was my brother and got straight through to a girl who didnt know what i was talking about. he was flippant about it and wandered off. later i scribbled down the number and showed him and asked if he recognised the number as it was really bugging me who it couldve been. he barely glanced at it and just said no stright away. so i then put the number in my bag. this morning it is gone. he also has taken to hiding away his mobile phone when he always used to leave it out in the same place.
so now obv am feeling really shitty and dont know what to do next. how can i approach him about it? becausce whether theres something going on or not his answer is likely to be the same. and dont want to come over all bunny boilerish if nothing is going on. just have this bad feeling i cant shake off. i would rather know obv one way or the other. do you think iam reading too much into this or would you be suspicious too? god, i just feel sick. any advice gratefully receieved.