Dating thread 159 - Should I Stay or Should I Go Now

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I think it's under 'your matches' life but it's a while since I've been on it.

If you go into ' my city ' and put a distance,lots will pop up.
Same old faces usually ☺

Thank you both. How funny I had my location set as off. No the wonder I couldn't find anyone 😂😂

@lifegoes
Why do the same men appear in my tinder or bumble even tho I've swiped NO on them at least 4 times

I still seem to get the same faces even though my location is on! Also, “school of life” 🙄😴

I am just home from work, MrSAS was originally coming round tonight so I am sat in my garden with a glass of wine and a cigarette (I only ever smoked once in a blue moon before fucking OLD) and a pizza for one in the oven. My friend is coming round later for a moaning/offloading session! Poor girl 😂

Oh, and I put the suggestion as my reply to the guy on tinder and I’ve heard nothing back! Guess he’s another one looking for different things to me but at least I know early doors this time!

@Sunshineandflipflops oh my location is on on tinder, but I just don't get why the same people appear. Just absolutely ridiculous how many times do I need to say no.

It will do you good, having your friend round. It's actually good to offload. You'll feel loads better.

Hey guys
Don’t let guards down, it will get easier. So I decided to ask mr races about if dating others or chatting. Not sure I like his response but seemed genuinely shocked I asked. He said well I’m certainly not dating an army of women! But in my head that could mean he still dating?!? I’m kind of glad I’ve raised it as an issue even though I’m no further forward 🤦🏻‍♀️

@lifegoes Apparently sometimes it is better to delete the apps and start again if you have been on there for a while this time with different photos. If people have not swiped right on you as much as others because they don't like your photos, then the apps give you the dross.

I only have so many photos to choose from
that’s don’t have my kids or ex in!

My profile is probably crap but it’s me!

@Sunshineandflipflops make yourself up tonight and get your friend to take photos of you

@Sunshineandflipflops sounds lush! Can I join you?

@vwman I haven't been on while and I've reinstalled them all after a break and updated photos etc.

I don't want to delete my tinder and start again as I'm talking to a guy on there. I've done that on bumble loads tho.

Hahahaha how rude also "because they don't like your photos" thanks @vwman nothing like giving a woman a confidence boost. When you can blatantly see by my recent posts lately I've really been struggling.

@lifegoes you know I didn't mean it like that, you know sometimes photos don't show you in the best light

If I have to “make myself up” to attract men then I don’t want to attract those men. Do men make themselves up to take pictures for OLD profiles? Thought not...

@AsleepAllDay be my guest...I have another bottle of wine chilling 🍷

@Sunshineandflipflops but other women do that its not the natural look they are showing, I see the photos, and most men are visual

Most men are also, in my personal experience, wankers.

vwman I thought most men don’t like makeup lol?

I have been told several times by men that they like my natural look. It’s not my look, it’s me, I’m a mess. Inevitably the convo next turns to the state of my lady garden, then ends. Quickly.

God I hate people making personal comments, so I’m not exactly cut out for OLD 😂

@CassettesAreCool I have said on here before I hate judging and being judged on my photo. It has been suggested to me that I need photos in a tshirt showing my muscles on my profile, its the same concept

vwman I totally agree actually. When it comes to ‘looks’ as such in photos, all I really care about is that a man is smiling

@Sunshineandflipflops "Do men make themselves up to take pictures for OLD profiles?" no, for me its only at weekends when I call myself Tulula

I hope Tulula is smiling

You will never know whether I am being serious or not

I've get told all the time I'm attractive and my photos are hot (that's not me being big headed as I personally don't see it, hence my self worth and confidence issues) and I don't use filters and "dress up"

But I think sometimes you need to think before you type @vwman as you've gone wading in with a comment that was needed

OLD is often about looks as you don't swipe if something doesn't catch your eye. I don't think I'm seeing the same guys on my tinder profile because I'm NOT good looking enough