Dating thread 159 - Should I Stay or Should I Go Now

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

likeridingabike that is encouraging. By the end of the evening I really fancied him but I wasn't sure if it was the wine talking so we had a little bit of a kiss and then I said goodbye and went home. I am looking forward to seeing him again.

It does sound a bit like you are making excuses for him @likeridingabike (sorry)

MrFox will be here in a bit. Totally not feeling it, it will take something miraculous for me not to end it.

@30somethingandsingle just put everything on the table, hear him out and then decide. But remember one thing lovely, you are the prize 😘

30somethingandsingle I know, I'm just not ready to give up yet, he's going to have to prove himself with actions not just words.

Toilet update. He was surprised that I look better than my photo. He seems nice. Nice voice.

@StealthNinjaMum 👊

I'll confess @likeridingabike I still kept having an occasional look, despite being happy with my current situation. No messaging, just browsing out of boredom.
I know I had no malicious intentions, it's not impossible that he was the same.

WarIsPeace That's helpful to hear. I'm going to sleep on it and see how I feel in the morning, I've told him I need some time and space.

Second update. There has been more snogging than talking.

I don't mean boredom with the budding relationship, I mean boredom as in run out of active threads and want something to look at on my phone while I'm cooking the tea etc.

WarIsPeace That's what he meant by bored, at a loose end, not bored with the relationship.

Yes I've done that @WarIsPeace. Bored at home. Not led anyone on cos only swiped left. And used photo of an object. Sounds similar to me @likeridingabike

I'm very addictive @shitwithsugaron. @StealthNinjaMum go go go!

Interesting about the fulfilling boredom thing. I have ditched all apps as they were almost all habit forming. I became an expert on Match FFS (Though @StealthNinjaMum seems to be doing alright off the back of that ).

That leaves me feeling pretty happy right now. I have a nice conversation ongoing. It may go somewhere. Shit may be going down on t'internet right now, but it'll still be there in one, two, three weeks time if I need to return to it.

Well looks like I am single again sort of my decision, not entirely happy with it but silly headfuckery mind games this evening and just couldn't take it any more.Feeling down with life generally at the moment.no idea what I'm going to do with my child-free time now.

Sorry to hear that @CocoKoko123 headfuckery is the lowest of the low. Spend your child free time drinking gin...it helps

I'm joining coco on the singles bench.

MrFox said all the right things, I do believe him when he says he had a bit of a panic after a few too many drinks/ he admitted he was old enough to know better etc and he was as lovely and kind as always which made my decision even harder. I told him that the communication thing was a big issue, and also the 'casual dating' was not where I thought we should be. He says he said that because he didn't want to put pressure on us but I just wasn't feeling it, there had been a huge shift in how I felt when I saw him and how I felt in his company. I'm quite insecure and I need reassurance- to feel wanted and 'safe' I want someone that is not afraid to show me that.

I feel a bit sad as he is a lovely man. Just not the man for me.

Welcome 30 come take a pew,
Unfortunately kermit I can't drink gin so will stick to a vodka or wine.
I can't really articulate the text conversation we've had and would love to share more on the situation but would be too outing!back to square one for me.

I may join you both soonish. Think I might be sliding slowly off the cougar bench. It might take a while to join you fully on the singles bench but I suspect the decline has started.

Sounds like @StealthNinjaMum might be able to move up and make space anyway....

Nooo I hate seeing these messages from you coming off the bench. We had a lovely evening, I will update later.

Oh @30somethingandsingle I'm sorry to hear this, but I do think you made the right choice. Even before he did this, you were really unsure with the way he was and if it was enough for you.

Come and Park yourself next to me on this bench. We'll hung out those men who can make us feel wanted and reassured and most importantly can communicate well 😉😘

What happened @Peanuthedz are you feeling uncomfortable with the age gap or is he still making references about it?

Life goes- hugs 🤗 I think you probably did the right thing for you though. It has to be right for you.
Coco- sometimes it helps to share. We are all here for each other
Peanutz- oh no I’m guessing you can’t forget the comment or thing about people looking. A lot of younger men would be proud to show they mature enough to deal with a milf.
I’m dangling round the benches not sitting but standing uncomfortably. We arranged date 4 for Friday but could see each other in the week. It’s very very early days but already I don’t feel he texts a lot. I am taking a stand and making him initiate convo. Some days he does but I feel it’s mostly me. And yes he could still be talking to others I know he’s still on a site and it is so new that he should be. However- Today’s mission is to keep busy and not under any circumstance message until he does. 🤦🏻‍♀️