I think it’s hard not to feel wobbly on the smitten bench, especially for those of us who’ve experience of how relationships can go wrong. In my case, I’m totally sure about him but then I start worrying that he might not feel the same way. I think he actually feels the same way (as evidenced by last night’s worry over towel storage). So we’re both being ridiculous. But it’s hard - especially when your recent relationship experience is of someone who patently didn’t love you (and never did) but had other motives for wanting to be in a relationship with you (sadly, this applies to both of us, but our exes had different motives).
@Peanuthedz MrSG is trying to sell his house, simply to remove himself from the mortgage. All the equity is going to his ex. It’s taking ages to sell though because it’s very overpriced (and his ex refuses to reduce the asking price) and in pretty terrible condition (literally everything needs to be decorated/changed). So it’s not an attractive prospect to buyers.
I’m helping him to paint it (starting this weekend) but he might have to take her to court to force his ex to agree a price reduction. I can understand why she is still hoping for the asking price (who would want less money?) but you need to be pragmatic about these things. It is only worth what someone will pay for it. Luckily the consent order specifies ‘at a price recommended by ’ and they’ve suggested a considerable reduction. So hopefully she’ll see sense before they both have to pay solicitors (and possibly courts) more money.
Once that house sells, we can decide what we’re doing. We’ve already talked about it to some extent but it’s always different when you’re actually in a position to do it (rather than talking about what you’ll do after X, Y or Z). There’s currently little danger of his house selling though so it’ll remain vague for now.